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I want to know that what islam provides for those boys n girls who maintain relationships before marriage?They commit themselves with each other and enjoy all kinds of physical relation!Is kissing and touching allowed?And what is the outcome of such relation ship IF they get married and If they never get married?

And my another question is..there`s a girl who really admires a boy..and she believes to Worship him..what does islam provides for such? 

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Answer:

Boy girl relationship

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: I want to know that what islam provides for those boys n girls who maintain relationships before marriage? They commit themselves with each other and enjoy all kinds of physical relation!Is kissing and touching allowed?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:

5 This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who are losers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 23 Surah Muminoon verses 4-7:

4 (The believers are those) Who are active in deeds of charity;

5 Who scrupulously guard their private parts,

6 Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond or with whom their right hands possess, for (in their case) they are free from blame

7 But those whose desires exceed those limits are transgressors

The one and only lawful and permissible process in Islam whereby two non-mehram members of the opposite sex may emotionally and physically associate with each other, is through the sacred bond of marriage. Every other sort of bond or emotional or physical relationship between two non-mehram members of the opposite sex would tantamount to a lewd and secret intrigue between the two, and thus a manifest transgression of the declared boundaries of Islam in the Sight of Shariah and in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

Leave alone touching or kissing or ‘enjoying’ physical relations, Islam absolutely prohibits and forbids two non-mehram members of the opposite sex from even talking to each other without genuine cause and reason!

Your Question: And what is the outcome of such relation ship IF they get married and If they never get married?

If two non-mehram members of the opposite sex chose to transgress the absolutely clear boundaries of Allah and formed an emotional and physical relationship with each other out of marriage….they will be guilty of the heinous crime and sin of ‘zina’ (fornication) in the Sight of Allah Subhanah. In an Islamic State if the two are convicted in a Court of Shariah Law of their heinous crime, their prescribed punishment would be a hundred lashes each in public.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 2:

2 The woman and the man guilty of fornication, flog each of them with a hundred stripes: let not compassion move you in their case in a matter prescribed by Allah if ye believe in Allah and the Last Day: and let a party of the believers witness their punishment.

If after their transgression, the two realized their grave error and turned to their Lord in sincerely repentance and seeking His forgiveness for their transgression before they were to meet with their appointment of death; it is expected that they will find their Lord Forgiving and Merciful. But if the two were to die in their transgression without seeking sincere forgiveness from their Lord for the crime, their punishment in the Presence of their Lord Most Majestic would be severe and ever-lasting.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chatper 25 Surah Furqan verses 68-70:

68 (The true servants of Allah are) Those who invoke not with Allah any other god, nor slay such life as Allah has made sacred except for just cause, nor commit ‘zina’: and any that does this (not only) meets punishment

69 (But) the Penalty on the Day of Judgment will be doubled to him and he will dwell therein in ignominy!

70 Unless he repents, believes, and works righteous deeds; for Allah will change the evil of such persons into good and Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful

Even if the two who committed themselves to a physical relationship choose to marry, the marriage by itself will not relieve them of their heinous crime and sin of fornication. Unless and until they turn to their Lord seeking sincere repentance for their past sin before their appointment of death, they shall have a sincere accounting in the Court of their Lord Most High on that Inevitable and Tumultuous Day of Judgment.

Your Question: there`s a girl who really admires a boy..and she believes to Worship him..what does islam provides for such? 

We assume the term ‘worship’ here does not mean that the girl has made a ‘god’ out of the boy she supposedly really admires and loves, nor does she invoke him in the unseen, nor does she pray to him, etc…..but the term ‘worship’ here is used merely as a figure of speech!

Dear and Beloved Sister, love-hate, like-dislike, joy-sorrow, smile-weep, etc. are natural emotions of mankind! What determines virtue and sin is what one says or does when one experiences these natural emotions!

To love someone is a natural emotion, and there is absolutely no sin if one loves another person; it is what one does after one has fallen in love with that person which would determine whether it would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah or a sin!

If one falls in love, and informs one’s guardians that they love so and so, and requests them to sanctify their love in the sacred bond of marriage so that they may love each other for the rest of their lives would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

But if one falls in love, and strives to meet the person in secret and in private, and in their love transgress the boundaries of Allah Subhanah before they are united in the sacred bond of marriage; then indeed it would constitute a huge sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan