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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Assalaamu Alaikum Waharamatullahi Wabarakhathu,

Dear Brother in Islam,

My question is: I got a proposal from my friend (and her family); she wants me to marry her brother, so she told me to talk to him and gets to know each other. Finally he decided to marry me in near future. He said that that he was a play boy and he used to have many bad friends and used to do many bad things but now he has stop everything and he will try to keep his duty to Allah swt with my help. Finally he uses to force me saying that he wants to have all the things from the one whom he is going to marry rather than going out. If you don’t help me I will be forced to go for the things which I have stopped.

Finally I tried so much for bring him to right path rather than leaving him behind, but he doesn’t care, he doesn’t keep his duty to Allah swt properly, I can’t face his family because of him, I feel guilty. I did sin because of him.

I love Islam so much and I want to live according to Islam, but his friendship let me to do all the bad things and he doesn’t help me to enter Islam properly. Because of him, my Iman getting week day by day. Finally I told him I can’t disobey Allah swt anymore, so you try to enter Islam properly or leave me. But still he doesn’t take it seriously, always pushing me to do bad things.

Now I decided to leave him, I don’t want to get married to him. What ever is happened from my side for that I always repent to Allah swt for my sin and ask guide me to right path.

So please help me, what I have decided is correct?

JazaakAllah
Sister in Islam

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Answer:

Leave impious boyfriend

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: So please help me, what I have decided is correct?

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on earth and extensive corruption.'

Dear and beloved sister in Islam, if the belief or practice of Islam or the character of the person you wish to marry is in doubt….or the person has manifested his impiety, does not fear his Lord, and does not keep his duty towards his Lord….Allah is our witness sister, the absolute best decision you could make is to leave even the thought of ever spending your whole life with such an impious and un-Godly person….for such a person might not only bring ruin upon himself in this world and the Hereafter, but if one is not constantly careful of his evil, he might lead those around him to ruin too.

Beloved Sister, as your brothers and sincere well-wishers in faith our humble advice to you is to seek someone who is God-fearing and pious….for not only will such a person fear Allah in whatever he says and does…he will do good and inspire all around him to do good; thus paving the way that leads to the Mercy and Forgiveness of the Lord Most Merciful.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan