Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Salam, It has been 6 months i got married and i really love my husband and he loves me also but his past was so horrible but he told me everything 2 months before the marriage and i managed to forget all that somehow and gave him a chance to become a good person but recently he told me that he used to go to the prostitues also before we got married and he promised that he will never do that ever again but i just cant handle myself and feel like not to go any further with a man like that. One of the reasons is that he always wants me to act and dress like a prostitute also otherwise he says that i wont be attracted towards you.Also he said he will try his best to stop drinking but he nerver promised for that and I am so helpless cuz i cant even back off and heading forward is also so hard.I cry all the time and my life is so miserable. Please tell me what should i do according to islam as islam says you have to make your husbands happy and only then you can go to Heaven. All i want is a happy life with my husband and upcoming children.HElp me!! 

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Answer:

Impious Husband

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on earth and extensive corruption.'

Dear and beloved Sister, Islam guides that the believing woman should only choose and seek to marry a believer with whose practice of religion and character they are satisfied with. If you had knowledge of your husband’s unlawful habits prior to your marriage, and you still chose to marry a person whose practice of religion and character was unstable….then obviously you have chosen to put yourself in a trial with your own hands!

Beloved Sister, if you feel and believe that your husband is sincerely repentant over his past evil deeds….then it would only be piety and righteousness on your part that you forgive and overlook his past deeds, and strive to the best of your ability to maintain a normal marital relationship with him which befits a believing woman.

But if after your repeated reminders, you have reached a stage where you have lost hope that your husband would ever fear Allah and stop his evil deeds….you are obviously well within your rights to initiate a separation from him through the institution of divorce. But as long as you have hope of improvement in his character and his practice in the deen, and as long as you choose to remain united with him in the sacred bond of marriage…..it would be obligatory upon you to make sure that you fulfill all the rights of your husband in full.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan