Limits in engagement
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Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Asslam wa aleikum wa rehamataullah wa
barkaathahu,
Is there any way i can develop my speed and
undestanding the way to read holy koran inshallah also if if am engaged to a
girl with due consent from both out parents is it legible for me to embrace her
or kiss her or hold her just wanna know the limit i must maintain as allah
forbid i dont want o indulge in anything that is not forbideden in islaam
ASAK
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Answer:
Limits in engagement
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Question: Is there any way i can develop my speed and
undestanding the way to read holy koran inshallah
The speed towards the understanding of the Holy Quran is
directly related to the strength of one’s intention and the intensity of one’s
efforts for seeking and gaining more of this blessed Knowledge of Truth. If one wishes to develop one’s speed in
understanding the wise Commands and Guidance from the Glorious Quran, one needs
to intensify one’s intentions to study the Quran, intensify one’s efforts and
striving and above all: in absolute humility and hope, constantly beseech and
implore and beg the Merciful Lord to expand one’s heart towards its
understanding.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 125: Those whom Allah (in His Plan) Willeth to
guide He openeth their breast to Islam; those whom He Willeth to leave straying
He maketh their breast close and constricted as if they had to climb up to the
skies: thus doth Allah (heap) the penalty on those who refuse to believe.
Sahih Muslim Hadith 6473 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said that Allah thus
stated: ‘When My servant draws close to Me by the span of a palm, I draw close
to him by the space of a cubit, and when he draws close to Me by the space of a
cubit, I draw close to him by the space (covered) by two hands, and when he
draws close to Me by the space (covered) by two hands, I go in hurry towards
him.’
Allah Subhanah has fulfilled
His covenant with us and provided us with the tools we need for our guidance to
the Straight Path; He bestowed upon us the faculties of sight and hearing, He
revealed and protected His Book of Guidance, and He appointed His Last and
Final Messenger (saws) to guide us towards the Path that leads to His
Mercy. Now it is upto us whether we take
advantage of the tools He has provided us and seek the Path that leads to His
Mercy, or beguile and bemuse ourselves with the love of this transitory world
and harm our everlasting life of the Hereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah
Anaam verse 157-158: Now that a clear proof (The Al-Quran), a Guidance and Blessing, has come to you from
your Lord, who can be more unjust than
the one who treats Our Revelations as false and turns away from them? We will inflict the severest torment on
those who turn away from Our Revelations because of their aversion. Do the people now await that the angels
should come down before them? Or that
your Lord may Himself come down? Or that
the manifest Signs of your Lord should appear?
Your Question: also if if am engaged to a girl with due
consent from both out parents is it legible for me to embrace her or kiss her
or hold her just wanna know the limit
Dear and Beloved Brother in Islam, an ‘engagement’ has
absolutely no legal basis in Islam; and the girl you are now ‘engaged’ to you
is as forbidden to you as every other non-mehram woman in the world. Leave alone being able to embrace or kiss
her, it would be forbidden in Islam and a sin in the sight of Allah Subhanah
for you to even talk casually with her without the presence of her mehram male
relative!
Only when the couple are bound by the contract of ‘Nikaah’
will they become completely legal to enjoy each other’s company in the sight of
Allah Subhanah.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan