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Assalam - Alaikum,

Brother,May Allah bless you tremendously for guiding us all,muslims and non-muslims towards the right path.

Brother,im in a huge dilemma,as i myself was a born bohra but no more have the same faith as my parents and family do...Alhamdulillah,now i no longer believe in the so called sect system in Islam..and i strongly believe in calling myself only a Muslim,and following the Quran and sunnah of Prophet Mohd(saws).However,my parents(my mom specially) disagrees, and are against this change in me..though they too agree in the same belief,of the sunnah of the prophet(saws),but they do not want me to leave the bohra community.I have mentioned it to them very clearly,time and again..that i dont want to be associated with any sect as such,n specifically not the bohra community,if they have to follow the baseless concepts of bohriism.

Brother,they have now learnt to accept, of my beliefs.but are worried,that i will be socially isolated if anyone else comes to know of these changes in me..plus i will not find anyone to marry,moreover as im a girl.Brother,i honestly do not wish to marry a bohri..because i feel i would not be able to do justice with the husbands family,my family or even my husband for that matter..if they follow the bohra beliefs.I am in a serious dilemma because of this marriage issue specifically..they want me to be settled an happy with whomever i be..but i myself cannot find anyone who thinks like me..and tht is making it more difficult.Im sure there are many bohri reverts writing to you in this forum.I request you to please send me a few contacts of some boys(with their permission), who share the same thoughts as i do..As i do not see any solution to this problem of mine.Im aware that this is not a matrimonial site !,but I hope u will do u`re best to help me,Inshallah !.

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Answer:

Marry revert from bohra girl

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verse 46:

46 ……and Allah guides whom He wills to a Way that is Straight.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4994 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah Most High has allotted you your characters just as He has allotted you your provisions. Allah Most High gives worldly things to those whom He loves and those whom He does not love, but He gives religion (Al-Islam) only to those whom He loves, so he who is given religion (Al-Islam) by Allah has been loved by Him.”

Dear and beloved sister in Islam, may Allah Subhanah accept your reversion to the Truth of Al-Islam, have mercy upon you and us, help you and us, guide you and us to the Path that is Straight, and save you and us and all the believers from the torment of the Hell Fire. Ameen.

My dear and beloved Sister in Islam, the trials that one has to go through at the hands of their family or surroundings only because of their acceptance of the Truth are no more than opportunities provided by your Lord so that they may earn unimaginable rewards in the Hereafter.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 29 Surah Ankabut verses 2-7:

2 Do men think that they will be left alone on saying "We believe" and that they will not be tested?

3 We did test those before them and Allah will certainly know those who are true from those who are false.

4 Do those who practice evil think that they will get the better of us? Evil is their judgment!

5 For those whose hopes are in the meeting with Allah (in the Hereafter let them strive); for the Term (appointed) by Allah is surely coming: and He Hears and Knows (all things).

6 And if any strive (with might and main) they do so for their own souls: for Allah is free of all needs from all creation.

7 Those who believe and work righteous deeds from them shall We blot out all evil (that may be) in them, and We shall reward them according to the best of their deeds.

Dear and beloved sister, the fear that you have that there will none to marry you because of your true belief is absolutely unfounded, and no more than a ploy of the Shaytaan to scare you to retreat back to disbelief! There are hardly a million followers of the sect that you were born into, but the Ummah of Islam which you have entered has almost two billion followers! How is it possible that one who leaves a sect of a mere million fears that they will not find one to marry from amongst a Ummah of two billion???

My dear and beloved sister, keep your full trust and faith in your Lord Creator Alone, and He that has provided you and the billions of people in creation, will Alone suffice to sustain and provide for you and for all!

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumar verses 36-39:

36 Is not Allah enough for His servant? But they try to frighten thee with other (gods) besides Him! For such as Allah leaves to stray there can be no guide.

37 And such as Allah doth guide there can be none to lead astray. Is not Allah Exalted in Power (able to enforce His Will), Lord of Retribution?

38 If indeed thou ask them who it is that created the heavens and the earth they would be sure to say "Allah." Say: "See ye then? The things that ye invoke besides Allah can they if Allah wills some Penalty for me, remove His Penalty? Or if He Wills some Grace for me can they keep back His Grace?" Say: "Sufficient is Allah for me! In Him trust those who put their trust."

My dear and beloved sister, as much as we would like to solve your simple dilemma, we are obviously not a matrimonial site, nor are we equipped to take on such a responsibility, nor are we at liberty to divulge the names and addresses of the brothers and sisters who write to us on this humble forum.

We assure you sister, that in an Ummah of almost two billion believers, the least of your fears should be that you will find none to marry! Keep your full trust and faith in your Lord Creator and constantly beseech Him and Him Alone with humility and with hope to provide you with your heart’s desire; for He Alone Suffices for the needs and wants of each in His creation.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 186:

And if My servants ask you, O Prophet, concerning Me, tell them that I am quite near to them. I hear and answer the prayer of the suppliant, when he calls on Me. So let them respond to My call and believe in Me. (Convey this to them), perhaps they may be guided aright!

Abu Hurairah reported, "The Prophet (saws) said, "Nothing is more dear to Allah than one's supplication to Him.''

Narrated by Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah.

Salman reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Your Lord, the Blessed and the Exalted One, is Modest and Generous, and He loathes to turn away His servant empty-handed when he raises his hands to Him in supplication."

Narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Hibban.

Abu Hurairah reported that the Prophet (saws) said, "Your supplication will be answered if you are not impatient, and if you do not say, 'I supplicated but my supplication was not heard'."

Narrated by Malik.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan