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Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuhu

Brother Burhan Bhai may allah reward you for your work that you holding for the muslim ummah and that is answering their questions according to the qur`an and the traditional way of the prophet (saws).

well, regarding my questions i would like you reply to my email please and as soon as quickly.

you can see that my name is omar ali and i came from somalia and you where just to know eachothers? i have a few questions to ask brother.

1) can i marry my cousin`s daughter, but if her parents dont want me to marry her?

2) brother also i am not working at the moment still can i marry her, with the help of allah and my family might support me with something?

3) dear brother, as the prophet clarified to us (youth) to marry with the ability if he cant so he should fast, but brother my question is that i cant fast because i am in love for marriga very desperately what shall i do at this difficult time for me?

please answer me very soon thanks

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Answer:

Marry cousin daughter

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

May Allah Subhanah reward you with the best of this world and the Hereafter for your kind comments of encouragement for our humble efforts in the propagation of the Truth. If our humble and modest efforts have helped even one brother or sister get closer to Allah and His Deen of Truth, then we would consider ourselves indeed fortunate to have been given this opportunity by the Lord Most Merciful to serve in His Cause. We hope, beg, and pray the Merciful Lord accepts our humble and weak efforts, forgives us our shortcomings, and saves you, us, and all the believers from the torment of the Hell Fire. Ameen.

Q-1) can i marry my cousin`s daughter, but if her parents dont want me to marry her?

Cousins or their off-springs are not considered ‘mehrams’ in Islam, thus it is absolutely permissible for one to marry their cousins or their off-springs, if they wish to do so.

One of the obligatory conditions of marriage in Islam is the consent of the parents (or guardians) of the girl one wishes to marry. If the girl, or her parents are not willing to marry their daughter to someone, one may try with humility and patience to convince them; and if they don’t agree, one should leave them alone and seek other women to marry.

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2078 Narrated by Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin

The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘The marriage of a woman who marries without the consent of her guardians is void. (He said these words) three times.’

Q-2) brother also i am not working at the moment still can i marry her, with the help of allah and my family might support me with something?

Having a job or having financial stability has absolutely no relation with the ability of a believer to get married. If one is striving and hoping that Allah Subhanah will increase ones sustenance, or if one has a family who would support him; it is absolutely legal and permissible for a believer to seek marriage.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Nur verses 32-33: Marry between the single man and women among you, and between your slave men and slave women who are righteous. If they are indigent, Allah will provide means for them out of His Bounty. Allah has boundless resources, and He is The All Knowing. And those who cannot find the means for marriage, they should keep themselves chaste till Allah provides them with means out of His Bounty.

The guidance of Allah Subhanah regarding marriage is that one should not unnecessarily delay his/her marriage. In fact, if one is indigent, he should seek to marry as soon as possible, for Allah Subhanah has promised that He will provide them and help them from of His Unlimited Bounty!

Abu Hurairah reported that the Prophet (saws) said: "Three persons have the right to be helped by Allah:

the warrior (ghazi) who fights for Allah,

the contracted slave who longs to buy his freedom,

and one who wishes to get married for the sake of chastity."

Related by Ahmad.

Q-3) dear brother, as the prophet clarified to us (youth) to marry with the ability if he cant so he should fast, but brother my question is that i cant fast because i am in love for marriga very desperately what shall i do at this difficult time for me?

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.4 Narrated by Abdullah

We were with the Prophet (saws) while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."

Dear and Beloved Brother in Islam, it is in the bestowed nature of every young man that he wishes to marry; thus take the wise advice of the Messenger of Allah (saws) and get yourself married to a righteous woman. And if the conditions are such that one is not able to marry, then the advice of the Messenger of Allah (saws) is that he should keep fasts, as fasts reduces one’s natural sexual desire.

Beloved brother, it seems from your letter that you are able to marry, but you do not have the consent of the parents of the girl you wish to marry. You may try, with patience and wisdom to convince them to give their daughter to you in marriage; and if they, or the girl refuses to marry you, it would be best if you would accept their decision and seek to marry another righteous believing woman of your choice.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan