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ASSALAMALYKUM,

Ithank you and appreciate your efforts in enlighting us about the  ways of ALLAH SUBHANA.your answer regarding the subject 1208..........what if an adulter is not punished has put to rest a lot of turmoil in me.may the good GOD BLESS YOU in this good work.I was all the time worried about carrying om my relationship with my husband,inspite of  him being an adulterer and not punished by law.........but you see ,brother, i had no choice,no place to go to and my children need the support of a father,,,,,,,,

i leave the matter to be decided in the court of ALLAH and try to be  a dutiful wife and a loving and understanding mother to my 2 sons. As you reasd my letter ,to the end, u will know, why i have no place to go, or any One to fall back on......but yes brother,GOD IS THERE FOR ME AND I FULLY PUT MY TRUST IN HIM,AND LET HIM DO THAT IS BEST FOR ME AND MY CHILDREN.

The question i put to yoy today is:is the woman with whom my husband has committed zina wajib on him or harraam on him........my husbands close relatives are asking him to get married to her,so as to atone for his sin if zinna(these relatives have no considerations for me or my children,or our emotions and truamas.........) the woman my husband has had an affair for 2yrs,and committed zinna is my younger brothers wife. my brother has sent her off to her fathers place and has applied for divorce.Its been 3 years now since ,my brother caught my husband and her in bed.my brother sent his wife to her fathers place ,but i am living in my house under the same roof with the man who broke my brothers home(though,my brothers wife was in the relationship with her own consent for 2 yrs,before she was caught redhanded) the court of law is tking its own time in granting the divorce,and as you must be aware adultery is very difficult to prove......she too  is harrassing him a lot.

please advise a confused sister on this matter. will marrying this woman really atone for my husbands sins.......coz if the answer is no then i can try and convince him not to marry her and make our lives miserable.but if he marrys her then what is mylife after that,what of allthe truamas i am bearing for the past years worth? i have left the matter in GODS hands.........but my husba nd willhave his cake and eat it too,(as the proverb goes)if he marrys her.........

what does Allah Subhana guides a wife to do in such a matter.

PLEASE I AM TOO CONFUSED.......WHAT DO I DO.......ADVISE A CONFUSED SISTER........

With regrads to you

Khudahafiz

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Answer:

Can Adulterer marry woman

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His  forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Dear Sister in Islam, all Praise is due to Allah Subhanah Alone Who has guided the believers to Islam. Sister, please be rest assured that your Merciful Lord is well aware of your situation, and He always hears and responds to the prayers of His believing slaves. Whatever tribulations might come upon the believers in the transitory life of this world, if the believers put their trust in Allah Subhanah Alone, and look only towards Him for compassion and mercy, and bear these tribulations with patience and steadfastness; Allah has promised a huge reward for such of His believing slaves. We sincerely pray that Allah Subhanah make your trial easy for you, and bestow upon you a generous reward in the life of this world, and especially in the Hereafter.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 186:And if My servants ask you, O Prophet, concerning Me, tell them that I am quite near to them. I hear and answer the prayer of the suppliant, when he calls on Me. So let them respond to My call and believe in Me. (Convey this to them), perhaps they may be guided aright!

Your Question: The question i put to yoy today is:is the woman with whom my husband has committed zina wajib on him or harraam on him........

The truth is that the woman whom your husband committed ‘zina’ with was haraam for him, and he for her. They have committed a grave sin in the sight of Allah Subhanah by committing the evil act of adultery; and if they do not turn to Allah Subhanah and seek sincere repentance for their sin, Allah has prepared for such evil doers a dreadful punishment!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verses 17-18:17 Allah accepts the repentance of those who do evil in ignorance and repent soon afterwards; to them will Allah turn in mercy; for Allah is full of knowledge and wisdom.

18 Of no effect is the repentance of those who continue to do evil, until death faces one of them and he says "Now have I repented indeed"; nor of those who die rejecting faith: for them have We prepared a punishment most grievous.

But if your question is whether it is ‘wajib’ for your husband to marry the woman with whom he has committed the grave sin of ‘zina’; the answer is NO! And if she is single or divorced, neither is it forbidden for him to marry her, if he chooses to do so.

Your Statement: my husbands close relatives are asking him to get married to her,so as to atone for his sin if zinna.

The sin of ‘zina’ cannot be atoned by marrying the woman with whom your husband committed ‘zina’! The sin of ‘zina’ or any other sin one may have committed can only be atoned, if the person committing the sin turns to his Lord in sincere repentance, makes a solemn covenant with his Lord that he will not repeat the evil deed ever again, and then does righteous deeds according to the guidance and teachings of Allah and His Messenger (saws). Only Taubah and sincere repentance can atone for his sins. Simply marrying the woman will not atone for his evil sin of adultery! If your husband does not turn to Allah in sincere repentance and marries the woman with whom he has committed ‘zina’, he will not be able to save himself in the Just Court of Allah.

Your Question: will marrying this woman really atone for my husbands sins.......coz if the answer is no then i can try and convince him not to marry her and make our lives miserable.

Marrying the woman will in no way atone for your husband’s sins, if he does not turn to Allah Subhanah in sincere repentance! Only sincere Taubah and repentance can atone for one’s sins!

It would be best if you could talk to him and convince him not to marry such a woman. But if he has made up his mind to marry her, please do not try to force or coerce him into changing his mind; as that might bring nothing but more misery upon you, since you have already mentioned that you have small children and need him to support you and the children. If he does not heed to your sincere caution and advise, and is bent on marrying the woman….there is really not much you can do. And if he does not seek the forgiveness of Allah Subhanah for his evil deed, and does not seek your forgiveness, he will see the fruits that his evil will bring upon him in the life of this world, and in the life of the Hereafter.

Your Statement: but if he marrys her then what is mylife after that, what of all the truamas i am bearing for the past years worth? i have left the matter in GODS hands.........

Indeed, you have been put in a manifest trial! Dear Sister in Islam, please be rest assured that your Lord is well aware of your situation, so be constant in your sincere supplications to Him and beseech Him to make your trial easy for you. Dear Sister, you have done the right thing in putting your complete and absolute trust in Allah Subhanah Alone; for He Alone is All Powerful, All Wise. If you are patient and steadfast in this trial of yours, and put your trust in your Merciful Lord Alone; Allah will reward you generously from His Mercy and Grace in the life of this world, and in the Hereafter. Beloved sister, do not seek an immediate return for all the trauma and tribulations that might have befallen you in the life of this transitory world; but pray to your Lord to make your trial easy for you, and humbly beseech Him to reward you with patience in the life of this world, and honor you with the highest honor in the life of the Hereafter.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 153: O ye who believe! Seek help with patient perseverance, and prayer: for Allah is with those who patiently persevere.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Raad verse 22: Those who patiently persevere, seeking the countenance of their Lord; establish regular prayers; spend out of what We have bestowed for their sustenance secretly and openly; and turn off Evil with Good: for such there is the final attainment of the (Eternal) Home.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumar verse 10: Say: "O ye my servants who believe! Fear your Lord: good is (the reward) for those who do good in this world. Spacious is Allah's earth! Those who patiently persevere will truly receive a reward without measure!"

Your Statement: but my husba nd willhave his cake and eat it too,(as the proverb goes)if he marrys her.........what does Allah Subhana guides a wife to do in such a matter.

PLEASE I AM TOO CONFUSED.......WHAT DO I DO.......ADVISE A CONFUSED SISTER........

If you husband does not seek sincere forgiveness form Allah Subhanah, and goes ahead and marries the woman with whom he has committed adultery…..it may seem to the normal eye that ‘he had his cake and ate it too!!’. But sister, you must realize that the reward of evil can never be good or ever-lasting!!!! It is the Law of Allah, that only the reward of good will be good and ever lasting.

If you husband seeks sincere forgiveness from Allah Subhanah, and seeks also your forgiveness for the evil that he has done and cheated you of your rights….then it would be best if you forgave him, and continued your duties as a righteous wife, and seek your reward from Allah Subhanah Alone.

But if your husband does not seek sincere forgiveness from Allah and you, you are well within your rights to seek a divorce from such an evil person who transgresses the boundaries of Allah Subhanah without fear! But if you are unable to support yourself and your children, and have nowhere to go; then you may choose to continue to live with him and bear the trials that come your way…constantly beseeching Allah Subhanah to make your trials easy for you, and making them a source of earning huge rewards from Allah Subhanah in the life of the Hereafter.

Dear Sister, please be assured that this life is only a short period, and the life of the Hereafter is eternal! All the trials of this life will come to an end one day; but the rewards of the Hereafter for the righteous will never ever end in the life of the Hereafter. And be rest assured, that no good a believer does seeking the Pleasure and Good Will of Allah Subhanah, no matter how small or big it may be; will ever be wasted in the Just Court of Allah! It is the solemn promise of Allah that He will generously reward His beliving slaves.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 45 Surah Jathiyaa verse 14: Tell those who believe to forgive those who do not look forward to the Days of Allah: it is for Him to recompense (for good or ill) each People, according to what they have earned.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 42 Surah Shuraa verse 22: Thou wilt see the wrongdoers in fear, on account of what they have earned and (the burden of) that must (necessarily) fall on them. But those who believe and work righteous deeds will be in the luxuriant meads of the Gardens: they shall have before their Lord all that they wish for: that will indeed be the Magnificent Bounty (of Allah).

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 29 Surah Ankabut verses 58-59:

58 But those who believe and work deeds of righteousness, to them shall We give a Home in Heaven; lofty mansions beneath which flow rivers -- to dwell therein for aye; an excellent reward for those who do (good)!

59 Those who persevere in patience, and put their trust in their Lord and Cherisher.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan