Avoid adoption
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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this question:
With respect some Q&A, i would like to ask you
regarding adoption where you have mentioned its highly apprecialble.
Brother, how it can be appreciable for example my distant relative has 3 little
daughters and he adopted Son, we all apposed he did not agree, i would like to
ask you one simple thing, when this boy grows up along these 3 sisters and step
mother, then every second they stay as brother or Son with step mother and
sister is haram.coz they are non mahrims.its really near to impossible to
seperate these small kids once they mature. These innocent girls they did not
know during there childish days they thought the boy to be real brother so they
developed affection towards him.
Its duty of their parents to take care of these things
and avoid all these kinds of adoption. if they adopt they should make sure they
feed the baby to make their relationship as mahrims,without this adoption may
bring more harm then benefit. Instead of adopting better is to sponsor an
orphan.help the needy.
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Answer:
Avoid adoption
In the name of Allah,
We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah
guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide
them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah
Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the
seal of His Messengers.
Respected brother, without an
iota of a doubt, adopting an orphan is not only desirable, it is considered a
highly meritorious act in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith
4974 Narrated by Abu Umamah
Allah's Messenger
(saws) said, "If anyone strokes an orphan's head, doing so only for
Allah's Sake, he will have blessings for every hair over which his hand passes;
and if anyone treats well an orphan girl or boy under his care,
he and I (Prophet Mohamed (saws)) shall be like these two in Paradise,"
putting two of his fingers together!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith
4973 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger
(saws) said, "The best house among the Muslims is one which contains
an orphan who is well treated, and the worst house among the Muslims is
one which contains an orphan who is badly treated."
Sahih Al-Bukhari
Hadith 8.34 Narrated by Sahl bin Sad
The Prophet (saws)
said, "I and the person who
looks after an orphan and provides for him, will be in
Your Question: …i would like to ask you one simple thing,
when this boy grows up along these 3 sisters and step mother, then every second
they stay as brother or Son with step mother and sister is haram.coz they are
non mahrims.its really near to impossible to seperate these small kids once
they mature.
Indeed, an adopted child, unless
it is foster fed, will remain a non-mehram to the ladies in the family upon
reaching the age of puberty....but that by itself does not make adoption, per
say, unlawful or undesirable in its essence in the least!!!
Besides it is not ‘haraam’ or
‘unlawful’ for a non-mehram man to live amongst the family, provided the laws
of ‘hijaab’ are honored.
Your Statement: …..Its duty of their parents to take care
of these things and avoid all these kinds of adoption. if they adopt they
should make sure they feed the baby to make their relationship as
mahrims,without this adoption may bring more harm then benefit. instead of
adopting better is to sponsor an orphan.help the needy.
Firstly, it does not befit a
believer who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day to denounce or
condemn a deed which is declared as noble and highly desirable by Allah and His
Messenger (saws)….and make no mistake brother, adopting and taking good care of
an orphan is a deed which would earn enormous rewards in the Presence of the
Lord Most Majestic.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 36:
It does not behove a
believing man and a believing woman that when Allah and His Messenger have
given their decision in a matter, they should exercise an option in that matter
of theirs. For whoever disobeys Allah
and His Messenger, has indeed strayed into manifest error.
As noble and as desirable the
sponsoring of an orphan is in the Sight of Shariah, compared to the rank of adoption
it would pale in comparison….for sponsoring an orphan would merely fulfill the
financial needs of the sponsored, but adoption would fulfill the financial as
well as the emotional need of the child.
Sponsoring an orphan child who
has relatives who can look after him/her is fair; but to merely sponsor an
orphan child who has absolutely no one to look after him/her would be to leave
the orphan in harms way.
Just because the adopted child
cannot be a mehram to the ladies in the family is not reason enough to denounce
or avoid adoption in Islam! Allah is our
witness brother, the rewards one would earn for adopting an orphan in the
Presence of their Lord would far outweigh their sacrifice.
And besides, the example for
adoption is set in Islam by none other than the Noble Messenger of Allah (saws)
himself. Although he (saws) himself had
four daughters in his noble household, he (saws) chose to adopt Hadrat Ali (r.a.)
and Hadrat Zayed (r.a.) who lived and grew up with the family of the Prophet
(saws).
Whatever written of
Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever
of error is of me alone. Allah Alone
Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well
wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister