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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Asalaamaliakum i have two questions which if you could answer please:

2. my best friend has been married for 2 years but just before going to pakistan to get married she went to see this other guy they kissed etc and till this day she still goes to see him, he isn’t married and knows she is. i have tried explaining to her even though i am not perfect myself that se should lok after ger husband and be happy with him but she says she can’t when she loves the other guy, and she said rather than leaving him she asks Allah for help, which i feel is wrong as Allah wouldn’t allow this what should i do?

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Answer:

Friend cheating in her marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:

Do not even go near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!

Without an iota of a doubt, it is indeed a grave sin in the Sight of Allah for a married woman (or man) to develop an illicit sexual relationship with another man (or woman) outside the marriage. and she must seek sincere repentance from Allah Subhanah.

If indeed you happen to be a sincere well-wisher to your friend, you must exhort her to fear Allah and honor the trust in her sacred institution of marriage.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 216:

But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knoweth and ye know not.

You should advise your friend to trust and fear Allah Subhanah and immediately stop her relationship with the other man, and fulfill her commitment she has made to her husband in the sacred bond of marriage in Islam.

But if your friend is absolutely convinced that she will not be able to fulfill her rights to her husband for the rest of her life; or fears that she may be inclined to the path of sin with the other man; she is free to ask her husband to divorce her, or initiate a divorce proceeding in a Shariah Court, and subsequently marry her choice. But to continue cheating and developing an illicit sexual relationship with another man outside her marriage would be amongst the gravest sins in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan