Must zani always marry adulterer
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Dear
Brother Jan,
I
first of all sincerely want to thank you from my heart for replying to my
previous question, it made me feel so much better and I have repented to Allah
and I hope Allah accepts this from me and forgives me for my past deeds.
Dear
Brother Jan I am so sorry I keep bothering you but I have one more question
and I have searched online a lot and have not been able to get answers for
this.
I read
this statement in the Holy Quran
"The
adulterer/fornicator does not marry except an the adulteress/fornicatress or a
sharer/taker of partners (with God), and the adulteress/fornicatress , none
marries her except an adulterer/fornicator or sharer/taker of partners (with
God), and that (was) forbidden on the believers."
My
question is, because I have been a fornicator and an adultress in my past, does
this mean I will have to marry a fornicator? Or will Allah automatically give
me a husband who has been a fornicator? Can you please explain me the depth of
this statement from Quran dear Brother Jan?
PLEASE
PLEASE PLEASE do reply to me, I need you to help me please.
Much
love and prayers for you and your family.
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Answer:
Must zani always
marry adulterer
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah
Nur verses 2-5:
2 The woman and the man guilty of ‘zina’ (fornication) flog each of
them with a hundred stripes: let not compassion move you in their case in a
matter prescribed by Allah, if ye believe in Allah and the Last Day: and let a
party of the believers witness their punishment.
3 Let no man guilty of ‘zina’
marry any but a woman similarly guilty or an unbeliever, nor let any but
such a man or an unbeliever marry such a woman: to the believers such a
thing is forbidden.
4 And those who launch a charge against chaste women and produce not
four witnesses (to support their allegation) flog them with eighty stripes: and
reject their evidence ever after: for such men are wicked transgressors
5 Unless they repent thereafter and mend (their conduct): for Allah is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
Respected sister, it is not as if one (man or woman)
guilty of the crime of ‘zina’ can only be legally married to one who is
likewise guilty of the same heinous crime; nor does this Aayah make it legal
for a believer (man or woman) guilty of of ‘zina’ to marry a disbeliever!
But rather, such is the monstrosity of the heinous crime
of ‘zina’ in the Sight of the Lord Most Majestic, that He Declares it
absolutely forbidden for a believer (man or woman) who sincerely fears Allah
and the Last Day to seek to marry one who is known to be a committer of such a
heinous and immoral crime!
It is neither permissible nor lawful in Islam for a
believer to knowingly seek in marriage an immoral and impious woman who has
been convicted or has confessed to committing the heinous crime of ‘zina’; nor
is it permissible for a believing woman to knowingly agree to marry an immoral
and impious man who has been convicted or has confessed committing ‘zina’,
unless of course the person guilty of ‘zina’ repents and amends his/her conduct,
for Allah is indeed Forgiving, Most Merciful.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."
The prohibition to marry is only for those adulterous men
and women who do not repent for their abomination of ‘zina’, nor amend their
conduct; but wish to continue their immoral activities without fear of Allah
and the Last Day; it is to such manifest transgressors and evildoers that Islam
has absolutely forbidden the believers to seek in marriage.
Your
Question: ….My question is, because I have been a fornicator and an adultress
in my past, does this mean I will have to marry a fornicator?
Respected sister in Islam, regardless of the quality or
the quantity of the evil deeds one might have done in one’s past…..if one
sincerely turns in ‘taubah’ unto their Lord Most Gracious, seeks sincere
forgiveness, and thereafter amends their conduct……it is expected that their
Lord Most Merciful will accept their repentance and cleanse them of all their
sins.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah
Zumur verses 53-54:
(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged
their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely,
Allah forgives all sins. He indeed
is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before
the scourge overtakes you; for then you
may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale
Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much,
who, if ever they commit a base deed or
wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their
shortcomings. For who, but Allah,
can forgive sins? (And Allah
loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from
Allah, and with Gardens beneath which
canals flow, and they will reside
therein forever! How excellent is the
reward of those who do good deeds!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2338 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah
accepts a servant's repentance (taubah) till he gives up his spirit in
death."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2339 Narrated by Abu Sa'id
Allah's Messenger (saws) said that the Shaytaan
said, "By Thy Might, my Lord, I shall continue to lead Thy servants astray
as long as their spirits are in their bodies!" The Lord, Who is Great and Glorious, replied,
"By My Might, Glory and Exalted Station, I shall continue to pardon them
as long as they ask My forgiveness!"
Respected sister, if you have sought sincere repentance
from your Lord Most Merciful for your past deeds, rest absolutely assured that
your Lord Most Gracious will accept your sincere repentance and completely
cleanse your ‘Book of Records’ of each and every one of your evil deeds and
shortcomings.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verses 63-71:
The (true) servants of the Merciful are those
who walk humbly on the earth. When the
ignorant people behave insolently towards them,
they say, “Peace to you”; (And
those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before
their Lord and pray, “O our Lord, save
us from the torment of Hell, for its
torment is killing! It is an evil
abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly,
but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul
unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall
be punished for his sin, and his torment
shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection,
and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER
THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE
RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will
change his evil deeds into good deeds,
and He is very Forgiving and Merciful.
In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Your
Question: …..does this mean I will have to marry a fornicator?
Absolutely not!!!
If you have indeed sincerely sought repentance for your
past sins and have strived to amend your conduct, it would be your duty now to
seek to marry the most pious, righteous, and God-fearing believer you can find
on the face of this earth……one who would not only love, and respect, and
cherish your companionship in the life of this world, but who, together with
you, would strive to attain the highest rank of Paradise in the Hereafter.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan