Salam. i really love a boy.i talked to my family about our relation ships but they all dissagrred about it. we both love each other a lot. we can wait for each other for the wholw life.
Mu' meneen Brothers
and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa
Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be
upon all of you)
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brothers/sisters has asked this question:
salam. i really love
a boy.i talked to my family about our relation ships but they all dissagrred
about it. we both love each other a lot. we can wait for each other for the
wholw life. i just want to ask can i continue with my realtion ship, will Allah
be angry with me. i don`t want Allah to be angry with me. I tried to break my
relation ship with him, but i could not. Allah knows i tried my best to avoid
him, but i was not success ful. cani talk to him on the phone, with out letting
my parents knowing. will Allah be angry with me or not. I love Allah a lot. I
worship him a much as i can. please tell me can i talk to him in secret. will
Allah accept this. please yell me
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Answer:
Illicit relationship
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5: This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful
unto you and yours is lawful unto them.
(Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are
believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your
time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness
nor secret intrigues. If anyone
rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the
ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118 Narrated
by Umar ibn al-Khattab
The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a
(non-mehram) woman, the Shaytaan makes the third."
It is
absolutely unlawful, prohibited, and unacceptable in Islam for one who
sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day to have an illicit or secret
relationship with a non-mehram member of the opposite sex. Such unlawful relationship allows the
accursed enemy of man, the Shaytaan, to lead them towards the abomination and
absolutely despised and grave sin of ‘zina’ (fornication and adultery); and
Allah Subhanah has specifically and categorically commanded the believers to
abstain and not even come near anything that leads towards this abomination and
grave sin of ‘zina’.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32: Do not
even go near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing
and a very evil way!
My dear
and beloved Sister in Islam, either convince your parents and sanctify your
love in the sacred institution of marriage, or fear Allah and completely put an
end to the secret relationship immediately. To form or continue a secret and illicit
relationship with a non-mehram member of the opposite sex would indeed be a
grave sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me alone.
Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in
Islam,
Wister