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I am divorced for almost 2 years and still 23.My parents wont allow me to get married till few years from now. But its extremely difficult for me since my parents are abroad and i live with my brother and his wife. They have a child now and i feel really out of place. My sister in law is really lazy and i end up having to do almost all of chores as well as i work full time. my work is physically demanding and im not very strong. Iam having difficulty coping on my own since i have no one to support me or help me and as well i have to pick up after my lazy sister in laws slack. my mom says its our destiny to do other peoples work. i take half of the financial responsiliblity and my mom said if i find place of my own to rent my brother will say i betrayed him and didnt help him out.We sponsored our parents and for them to come it may take years.I cant wait that long.i will either fall into zina or ill one day die from being overworked. I pray and fast but my family dont and it feels like im living with non muslims(Allah forgive me for saying this).when im praying they are watching tv loudly. I get so sad i sometimes curse them in prayer i know its wrong. I discussed marriage with my parents and my brother insulted me badly and said he shud have left me with my abusive ex husband. and my parents said they worked hard to bring me up and im not having enough patience to wait for them to come. they think im ungratefull but dont ever think of my difficulties. i discuss with my mom my problems but she doesn’t want to hear them it seems. i know she had a difficult life to bring us up so i let it go. I pray all the time and i know i have to trust Allah swt and have patience but at this moment i feel i have a burden more than i can bear.i cant go back to my ex husband since he is remarried now and even so haraam for me now. 

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Answer:

Divorced woman wishes to remarry

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Respected sister, if you indeed fear that you will not be able to abide within the prescribed Boundaries of Allah Subhanah or fear that you might fall into ‘zina’ if your marriage is not arranged as soon as possible, it is incumbent upon your family to find a suitable righteous believer and arrange your marriage.

If is not fair nor justice for your parents or your brother to delay or postpone arraning your marriage for their sake; you are well within your rights to explain, politely but firmly, to your parents that you seek to marry and they should accede to your absolutely lawful request, if indeed they fear Allah and the Last Day. It is not lawful for your parents or your brother to stop you seeking marriage.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan