As i tried my best to convince her Dad through all his friends & my friends, no one has objections but her DAD is not listening.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
As-salam-o-Allaikum,
Dear brother, im really thankful for u &
From nearly 2 years I am in Love with a girl from my home town, i hardly met
her 5 times & all the five times in a public place i.e while travelling in
a Bus. We liked each other She asked me to send the proposal, I send but her
father harassed my Mother & Sister and rejected my proposal. from last one
year im in U.A.E im still in contact with her. though i know its Sin to speak
to non Mahram,
His father wants to marry her daughter to a Govt. officer now her age is 27
years. He is black mailing her daughter that if she married me he will eat
poison.
Now he wants to conduct her marriage for which she is not agreeing. I said do
whatever you feel good.
Please suggest me at the earliest what i have do now, as i tried my best to
convince her Dad through all his friends & my friends, no one has
objections but her DAD is not listening.
Jazzak Alaahu Khairan
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Answer:
Parents approval for
marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verse 54:
54 It is He (Allah) Who
has created man from water: then has He established relationships of
lineage (blood) and of marriage: for thy Lord has Power (over all
things).
Beloved Brother in Islam, a marriage in Islam is not a
mere union of two individuals, but rather a union between two families; and the
consent of both, the bride and her parents/guardians are an absolutely
obligatory condition for a Nikaah to be lawful in Shariah Law.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2078 Narrated byAisha, Ummul Mu'minin
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘The
marriage of a woman who marries without the consent of her guardians (wali) is
void.’ (He (saws) said these words three times.)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3137 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A woman
may not give a woman in marriage, nor may she give herself in marriage, for the
immoral woman is the one who gives herself in marriage."
Islam guides that neither should a righteous and
God-fearing child marry someone without the approval of their parents, nor
should the parents refuse the choice of their children without an absolutely
valid and just reason.
If after one’s very best and polite efforts, the parents
of the bride still disapprove of their daughter’s choice, it would only be
piety and righteousness on the part of the daughter to seek to marry someone
whom both she and her parent/guardians approve of.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Bani Israel verses
23-24:
Your
Lord has enjoined the following: You should not worship anyone but Him
Alone! Treat your parents with great
kindness; if either or both of them
attain old age, do not even say ‘uff’ (a word of contempt) to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and
pray, “O our Lord, be merciful to them,
just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.”
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated byAbu Umamah
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws)
what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and
commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other
guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured
of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister