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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

sir,

my question is that is it really important to marry in islam?

if we feel like not marrying,does it become a cause of sin for us making sure that we dont indulge in any forbidden acts.

since its important to look for a righteous wife and if someone is unable to find one then what is his way out.

kindly throw some light on such a problem, especially not marrying one....

thank you

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Answer:

Is it important to marry in Islam?

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 1: O mankind! Reverence your Guardian-Lord Who created you from a single person, created of like nature his mate, and from them twain scattered (like seeds) countless men and women; reverence Allah through Whom ye demand your mutual (rights), and (reverence) the wombs (that bore you): for Allah ever watches over you.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rum verse 21: And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them; and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.

Your question: my question is that is it really important to marry in islam?

The institution of marriage is indeed a demand of nature, whereby a man and a woman cohabit with each other in wedlock, love, honor, and respect each other, and that is the only approved and legal source for the continuity of the human race. Thus if your question is that it is important to marry in Islam, the answer would have to be yes. It is not only a Sunnah to marry, but it is also in the ‘fitrah’ or nature of mankind to marry.

But if your question is that it is obligatory on every muslim to marry; then the answer would be no. Marriage is a Sunnah, not a Fard or an obligatory duty on every muslim.

Your question: if we feel like not marrying,does it become a cause of sin for us making sure that we dont indulge in any forbidden acts.

If one chooses not to marry, there is no particular sin upon the person. But it will definitely be against the Sunnah and the nature of the human being.

Your question: since its important to look for a righteous wife and if someone is unable to find one then what is his way out.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.129 Narrated by Alqama

While I was walking with 'Abdullah he said, "We were in the company of the Prophet (saws) and he said, 'He who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women, and save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power.' "

If one indeed tries to search for a righteous woman to marry, and is unable to find one; he should sincerely supplicate Allah Subhanah to help him find a righteous woman to marry, and follow the above advise of the Messenger of Allah (saws).

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan