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asslam walaikum,
i whole heartedly apreatiate your desire to spread the word of allah among us and share your knowledge may allah shower you with enormous blessings and mercy.
my problem is i am very much frustrated by the behaviour of my inlaws towards me and my husband who is studying at the moment and they donot like the idea of us staying togther which would disturb his studies.he has already missed so much of his son but they donot bother and always interfere when it comes to us stayin togher.i am staying with my parents at the moment.i am very dishearten plz tel me what does islam tel about our situation coz i have started hating my inlaws for which i feel is wrong also.plz advise.plz disguise my name 

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Answer:

Husband live seperate from wife

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

May Allah Subhanah reward you with the best of this world and the Hereafter for your kind comments of encouragement for our humble efforts in the propagation of the Truth. If our humble and modest efforts have helped even one brother or sister get closer to Allah and His Deen of Truth, then we would consider ourselves indeed fortunate to have been given this opportunity by the Lord Most Merciful to serve in His Cause. We hope, beg, and pray the Merciful Lord accepts our humble and weak efforts, forgives us our shortcomings, and saves you, us, and all the believers from the torment of the Hell Fire. Ameen.

Your Question: i am very dishearten plz tel me what does islam tel about our situation

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rome verse 21:

21 And among His (Allah’s) Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.

It is the right of the husband and the wife united in the sacred bond of marriage in Islam that they may and should live with each other; but if for a genuine reason, both parties (the husband and the wife) consent that they might have to temporarily live apart, there is absolutely no harm.

Beloved Sister, under the said circumstances you have the following lawful options:

1. You could bear the situation laid upon you with patience in the knowledge that this separation in only temporary, keep your faith and trust in your Lord Most Gracious, and hope that in the not too distant future you will be able to live permanently with your husband and family.
2. If you cannot bring yourself to bear your current situation, you should talk to your husband and let him know your condition, and let him know politely but firmly that this separation is absolutely unacceptable to you and you wish to live with him.
3. If your husband is unable to or does not wish to fulfill your rightful demand and request, you are obviously well within your rights in Islam to initiate a divorce proceedings against your husband.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan