I also wanted to know whether an married man wishing to get married again , should inform his first wife or not about his intention.
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Dear
Brother Burhan
I also
wanted to know whether an married man wishing to get married again , should
inform his first wife or not about his intention. If yes, and in case his
first wife opposes him, what is the right of the man?
JazackAllah
Khair
Dear
Brother Burhan
Assalaam'alaikoum
I have
a doubt in my mind and I wish you can clear it for me. For most of the women on
this planet, it is very difficult to share their husband. This was the case
many years back with the wife of Ibrahim (PUH) and even Aisha (PUH).
Hence our jealousy is historic and in a certain sense
"natural". On the other side of the coin, Allah has created man
and He knows his weakness when it comes to women. Hence, men are allowed
to marry four times. However, my question is about whether the man ,who
is already married , is allowed to marry again without informing his first
wife. Secondly, I wish you can tell me whether a grown up unmarried man
can marry with a lady without informing his parents.
Thanks
in advance
Masalama
Sister
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Answer:
Permission of first wife to remarry
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Question: I
also wanted to know whether an married man wishing to get married again ,
should inform his first wife or not about his intention.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah
Nisaa verse 3:
And if you be apprehensive that you will not be
able to do justice to the orphans, you
may marry two, or three, or four women whom you choose. But if you apprehend that you might not be
able to do justice to them, then marry
only one wife; or marry those
women who have fallen in your possession.
This will be the better course to avoid injustice.
Allah Subhanah, Who created everything in existence and
bestowed on each its nature, Knows best the weaknesses and inclinations and the
nature of each in His creation. Because
in its inherent nature man has been created polygamous, when one amongst them
who is already married chooses to exercise his option and decides to marry
again, there is very little one can do to change his mind. Thus the man who has absolutely made up his
mind and desires another woman in addition to his wife, he is left with three basic
options:
- Form
an illicit and secret unlawful relationship with the other woman,
- Divorce
and leave the first wife and marry the other, or
- Keep
the first wife, and marry the other as his second wife.
There is absolutely no stipulation, condition, or
restriction in Shariah that a believer who is already married and wishes to
take on a second wife, to seek or have the prior permission of the first
wife. The one and only condition Islam
lays upon the believer who wishes to exercise his lawful option of practicing
polygamy, is to make sure that he does justice amongst his wives with his
allocation of time and resources towards them.
Regardless of whether the husband chooses to inform his
first wife prior to taking on a second wife or not, provided all the obligatory
conditions of a ‘nikaah’ are fulfilled, his second marriage will be absolutely
lawful in the Sight of Shariah Law and of Allah Subhanah.
Your Question: If
yes, and in case his first wife opposes him, what is the right of the man?
Beloved Sister in Islam, it is Allah Subhanah who has
given the permission and allowed the believing men to take and keep more than
one wife upto a maximum of four wives at any one time, if they wish and desire
to do so. If the first wife opposes the
decision of her husband to take on a second wife, it is entirely upto the
husband to accede or reject the opposition of his first wife.
Some women might indeed not be able to accept or share
their husband with another wife, and if the first wife fears that she may not
be able to stay within the limits of Islam if her husband were to take on a
second wife, she is well within her rights to seek a divorce from her husband.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.598 Narrated by Abu Huraira
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "No woman
should ask for the divorce of her sister (Muslim) so as to take her place, but
she should marry the man (without compelling him to divorce his other wife),
for she will have nothing but what Allah has written for her."
But it is absolutely forbidden in Islam for the woman who
is going to be the second wife of a person to demand that she will only marry
him if he were to divorce his first wife!
Your Question:
Secondly, I wish you can tell me whether a grown up unmarried man can marry
with a lady without informing his parents.
The absolutely obligatory conditions of an Islamic
‘nikaah’ are:
- Proposal
by one party and acceptance by the other.
- The
determination of ‘mehr’ to be given by the groom to the bride.
- The
availability of at least two muslim witnesses to the marriage contract.
- The
consent of the ‘wali’ of the bride to the marriage contract.
There is absolutely no condition in Islam that a groom
needs the prior consent or approval of his guardians or parents before he
marries; thus although it would not be in the best of etiquettes, or piety, or
righteousness to do so, if a man were to marry without the consent of his
parents, such a marriage would be considered lawful and valid in the Sight of
Shariah Law and of Allah Subhanah…..for the approval or presence of the groom’s
parents is not an obligatory condition of marriage in Islam.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan