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ASSALAAMUALAIKUM.

Iam very thankfull to u and to ur all colleagues for doing this good work may Allah Subhana wa Tala bless u all.

I have 2 questions to ask u and to get confirmation.

1.Because of some reasons the conflicts arised between my husband and my parents due to this there was much arguments between me,myhusband and my parents and my husband doesn´t want to keep any relation with my parents and he dont want to talk with them and me too,i dont want to say whose mistake was it b`coz Allah knows better but iam talking with my parents i stay in other country and my husband stay in other country and my husband dont know that iam in touch with my parents n i always lied with him that im also not talking with my parents b`coz if i say the truth my husband would get angry on me n all the situation ma go wrong.so dear brother i want to know that what im doing is right or not?ofcourse i know that iam doing a sin by telling lies to my husband but there is no other way for me,but then also i want to wether im doing right or not?

2.the other question is that i want know that if a women passes wind through her vagina does she needs to performe ablution again?

JAZAKALLAH

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Answer:

Husband commands break relation with parents

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: so dear brother i want to know that what im doing is right or not?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Ar-Raad verse 25:

As for those who break their covenant with Allah after confirming it, who cut asunder relationships which Allah has bidden to be joined, and spread chaos on the earth, their’s shall be the curse, and they shall have a wretched abode in the Hereafter.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Bakarah verse 27:

And He leads astray only those who disobey Allah, who break Allah’s covenant after ratifying it, who cut asunder relationships what Allah has ordered to be joined, and who produce chaos on the Earth. These are indeed the people who are the losers.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.17 Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "The word 'Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one of the names of Allah) and Allah said: 'I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin), and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin).

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.15 Narrated by Anas bin Malik

Allah 's Messenger (saws) said, "Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations with his kith and kin."

It is absolutely impermissible, forbidden, and an abomination of a sin in the Sight of Allah for one to break or sever ties or relationships of blood which the Lord Himself has created for them!

The husband, or anyone else in creation for that matter, has absolutely no right to command another to break relations with their kith and kin; leave alone one’s own parents!

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3696 Narrated by An-Nawwas ibn Sam'an

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A creature is not to be obeyed when it involves disobedience to the Creator."

Even if one’s husband were to command his wife to break relations or disown one’s parents, the command of the husband would not be obeyed in this matter, for it involves disobedience to the Guidance and Command of the Lord All-Mighty.

Your Question: ofcourse i know that iam doing a sin by telling lies to my husband but there is no other way for me,but then also i want to wether im doing right or not?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 135:

135 O ye who believe! Stand out firmly for justice (and Truth) as witnesses to Allah even as against yourselves or your parents or your kin and whether it be (against) rich or poor: for Allah can best protect both. Follow not the lusts (of your hearts) lest ye swerve and if ye distort (justice and truth) or decline to do justice; verily Allah is well-acquainted with all that ye do.

Islam guides and commands its followers to always stand on the side of the Truth and Justice, even if the consequences of stating the Truth might be against oneself, or against the interests of oneself or one’s loved ones.

Having being commanded to always speak and stand on the side of the Truth, there are a few specific instances and circumstances where Allah and His Messenger (saws) have allowed the believers to (so to say) ‘bend’ the truth…for a lie said in these specific circumstances and situations would not be considered a lie in the Sight of Allah Subhanah:

Ref-1: In the state of ‘war’:

Sunan of Abu-DawoodHadith 2631 Narrated byKa'b ibn Malik

When the Prophet (saws) intended to go on an expedition, he (saws) always pretended to be going somewhere else, and he (saws) would say: “War is deception!”

Ref-2: One who says a ‘lie’ to make peace or put relations right between people.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.857 Narrated by Um Kulthum bint Uqba

That she heard Allah's Messenger (saws) saying, "He who makes peace between the people by inventing good information or saying good things, is not a liar."

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 4902 Narrated byUmm Kulthum bint Uqbah al-Umawiyyah

The Prophet (saws) said: “He who forged in order to put things right between two persons did not lie.” The version by Ahmad ibn Muhammad and Musaddad states the the Prophet (saws) declared: “The liar is not the one who puts things right between people, saying what is good and increasing good.”

Beloved Sister, if you sincerely believe that your husband would be upset and your good relation with him in your sacred bond of marriage would be effected, even if slightly, if he ever found out you were secretly in touch with your parents, there is absolutely no harm and no sin upon you if you do not disclose the truth that you are in constant contact with your parents. In such a situation your lie will not be considered a lie in Shariah and in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

Your Question: the other question is that i want know that if a women passes wind through her vagina does she needs to performe ablution again?

If wind indeed passes through either of the two private parts, wudu would indeed become obligatory before one makes oneself available for prayer.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan