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Assalamualaikum,

Dear brother Burhan, you are doing a great job helping our muslims brothers and sisters. Thank you very much. May Allah(swt) grant you a reward for your services.

Brother, I am engaged and Inshallah will be getting married after 2 moths. with out parents permission we talk on phone and even chat (web camera) now it is getting real tough for us to not talk not even for a single day. Since the holy month of Ramadan has started I need your advise wheather I should talk to my wife to be. or shall I not?

And if I can, can we talk when we are fasting..because we have a time lag I would be fasting , she would have just broken her fasting.

I hope you understand. We both have decided not to talk untill we get a reply from you.

Kindly reply me as soon as possilbe.

May Allah(swt) bless you for your services.Ameen

Assalamualaikum

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Answer:

Talking and engagement

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

May Allah Subhanah reward you with the best of this world and the Hereafter for your kind comments of encouragement for our humble efforts in the propagation of the Truth. If our humble and modest efforts have helped even one brother or sister get closer to Allah and His Deen of Truth, then we would consider ourselves indeed fortunate to have been given this opportunity by the Lord Most Merciful to serve in His Cause. We hope, beg, and pray the Merciful Lord accepts our humble and weak efforts, forgives us our shortcomings, and saves you, us, and all the believers from the torment of the Hell Fire. Ameen.

Your Question: Brother, I am engaged and Inshallah will be getting married after 2 moths. with out parents permission we talk on phone and even chat (web camera) now it is getting real tough for us to not talk not even for a single day. Since the holy month of Ramadan has started I need your advise wheather I should talk to my wife to be. or shall I not?

Beloved Brother in Islam, the truth is that an ‘engagement’ has absolutely no legal basis in Shariah, thus your fiancé remains a non-mehram to you until the actual nikaah between you and her is performed. After ‘nikaah’, you may legally enjoy her company as much as you wish.

There is absolutely no harm in your talking to your fiancé on the phone or even chat on the internet, provided one of her mehram relatives (her father, her brother, her uncle, etc.) is present when she is in conversation with you. Islam does not permit the two of you to talk in absolute privacy. Allah is our witness, that would be purer and better for you in the Sight of your Lord, and if you have patience and abstain from talking to her in private only for the sake of Allah, He will bless you and bestow upon you an unending reward in this life and the Hereafter.

Your Question: And if I can, can we talk when we are fasting..because we have a time lag I would be fasting , she would have just broken her fasting.

What Islam regards as impermissible while not fasting, remains even more impermissible while one is in the state of fasting! Regardless of whether one is fasting or not, one should fear their Lord and strive to live their lives within the boundaries declared by Allah and His Messenger (saws).

Your Statement: now it is getting real tough for us to not talk not even for a single day.

May Allah Subhanah bless and increase the love He has created between the two of you, and may this love increase with time in the life of this world, and maintain its strength and purity even more in the eternal and everlasting life of the Hereafter.

Beloved brother, if such is the longing between the two of you to talk to each other, the best solution is to request your parents to perform your ‘nikaah’ as soon as possible; then in the Sight of Shariah and Allah Subhanah, the two of you become absolutely legal for each other and you may talk and enjoy each others company as much as your hearts desire.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan