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hi there burhan bhai, i am really tired of ma problem

i wud be really glad if u do answer it, please take out time for me and answer, and the problem is that i think i am ..homosexual, I never wanted to be, but i am .. i want to change my self into straight, please help me .. any surahs? anithing?? i can do, i wil.. i am praying from time i av realized that its bad really bad to be gay.. i think there is some positive effect, but i want my self to turn into straight, not just to leave homosexuality, also to like girls, as in.. wat wud i be answering to my wife?? please i ant to lead a straight life, willingly!! koi majbooran nahi, pleasee help me pleaseee.. being gay is soo humiliating, i wonder why God made me it..thugh i dont blame him...well but i hope he will get me out of this . but i need sum guidance please provide me with it...and next prob, i have been watching my dreams, good, bad, wet, all of `em .. but still i saw this one, which horrified me, that i was in ma class and i slept in my clas during my teacher`s lecture and woke up in hell.. i was crying and shouting helplessly, and then i got into my senses and got to know that i was being pushed by sumthing i wasn;t able to speak or open ma eyes, thankfully my bro came in and woke me up... this pushing i.e Dabbaoo has happened to me some times before as well, but i wana make clear the things about ma dream, and yh that dream came after i was missing isha prayers willingly, ...i guess ... please explain, please be helpful please!!? (dont reveal my email address : request!!!) 

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Answer:

One is homosexual

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale-Imraan verse 14:

14 Fair in the eyes of men is the love of things they covet: women and sons; heaped-up hoards of gold and silver; horses branded (for blood and excellence); and (wealth of) cattle and well-tilled land. Such are the possessions of this world's life; but in nearness to Allah is the best of the goals (to return to).

Dear and beloved brother, the very nature bestowed upon every man by the Lord Creator is the natural attraction towards women, off-spring, wealth, vehicle, property, etc. Every man is born on the exact same nature or ‘fitrah’, and by nature they are attracted towards these things.

Beloved brother, Allah Subhanah does not create anyone a sinner by birth or nature, but man of his own free will chooses to do good or do evil. No person is created a homosexual, or rapist, or murderer, or thief, etc.; but rather these are evil deviations of man himself, which he chooses to do of his own free will and choice.

Contrary to popular belief, and without an iota of a doubt, homosexuality is an evil deviation and choice of man himself; and thus he will be held to severe account in the Presence of the Majestic Lord on an Inevitable Day for his evil deviation.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraf verses 80-82:

And We sent Lot as a Messenger. And he said to his people, “Have you become so shameless that you commit such indecent acts as no one committed before you in the world? You gratify your lust with men instead of women. Indeed you are a people who are transgressors of all limits!” But the only answer his people gave was, “turn out these people from your habitations for they pose to be very pious.”

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 11 Surah Hud verses 82-83:

Accordingly, when the time of the execution of Our Judgement came (for the people of Lot), We turned the habitation upside down and rained on it stones of baked clay, each of which had been specifically marked by your Lord. And such a scourge is not far from the tyrannous people!

Homosexuality is absolutely, totally, and unconditionally forbidden in Islam! It is an abomination and a grave sin in the eyes of Allah, and Shariah or Islamic Law prescribes capital punishment for those who are convicted of committing this abomination! Such is the severity of this abomination of a sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

This deed is deemed un-natural and against humanity and righteous society in Islam. This deed is an evil and immoral deviation of man, and is not even found in the lower forms of animate life! Allah destroyed the whole habitation of Prophet Lot, and turned the whole city upside-down, and rained on them a rain of brim-stones for their sin of homosexuality. It was not that every individual in Sodom and Gomorrah who were destroyed committed sodomy; but even those who accepted it, propagated it, looked upto it as a norm and fashion, and allowed it without raising a voice against this abomination, were all destroyed by Allah Subhanah.

Your Question: i think i am ..homosexual, i never wanted to be, but i am .. i want to change my self into straight, please help me .. any surahs? anithing??

All Praise is due to Allah Subhanah Alone Who has guided you and given you the wisdom to realize that homosexuality is a grave sin and transgression in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

The absolute first thing one needs to do when one has transgressed any Law of the Lord Most High is to turn back to Him seeking sincere repentance and forgiveness; it is expected that they will find their Lord Forgiving and Merciful.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:

(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.”

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:

Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:

When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."

Beloved brother in Islam, the recitation of some verses or Surahs alone does not help one control his ‘nafs’ and stay away from sin; but what does help one stay away from sin is the constant fear of standing before the Lord’s Tribunal on an Inevitable Day of Justice. And that fear can only be developed through the constant Remembrance of Allah Subhanah through prayers, studying and understanding the wise verses of the Glorious Quran, being in the constant company of good righteous God-fearing and pious friends, and striving to do good deeds as endorsed by Allah and His Messenger (saws).

If you are indeed sincere in your seeking of repentance from your Lord Most Gracious, constantly fear the standing in the Lord Most High’s Tribunal on an Eventful Day, make an absolutely solemn intention and promise that you will never ever return to sin again, and remain constant in the Remembrance of your Lord Most High…it is expected that you will find your Lord Forgiving and Merciful.

Your Question: i wana make clear the things about ma dream, and yh that dream came after i was missing isha prayers willingly, ...i guess

The general opinion of the scholars in Islam is that when one experiences a dream where one is being severely tortured or punished, it means that such dreams are a means of a warning from their Lord Most High that they are doing something which is extremely detested by the Lord, and they should take heed and amend their conduct before the dream is made a reality by their Lord in the Hereafter. Indeed fortunate are those who get a warning from their Lord so that they may take heed, seek repentance from the Most Merciful for their sins, and strive to amend their conduct before they meet with their appointment of death….for then no repentance will be accepted by anyone.

Beloved brother, it may be the intentional missing of your prayers, or your inclination towards the abomination of homosexuality, or any other deed which is in absolute transgression of the Laws and Commands of your Lord…..it is you alone who can and must figure out what is it that you have done or are doing which is so dis-pleasing to Allah Subhanah, and immediately take steps to amend your conduct.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan