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As Salaam Aleikum,

i would like to ask you a question with regards to abulution (wudu) after intemating with one’s wife. i have previousely asked this question but im still not very clear as to how to make my self clean for prayers. i have read a couple of books with regards to this issue but both of them are telling me different things. i would be very greatful to yourself if could explain to me step by step and not send me an answer already in the your computer system. also i would like to know how i can do toba for having sexing sex whilst i was fasting, is this sin forgivable in the eyes of allaha if 1 repents straights after.

please answer as soon as possible as i can not concentrate towards my prayers at the moment because im not sure if im clean to be praying.

jazakallah

i look forward to your reply.

khuda hafiz

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Answer:

Post sexual purify

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Your Question:i would like to ask you a question with regards to abulution (wudu) after intemating with your wife. i would be very greatful to yourself if could explain to me step by step

Fiqh-us-Sunnah Fiqh 1.41a

To remove a sexual impurity

If a person in a state of post-sex impurity wants to eat, drink or have intercourse again, he should perform ablution.

Said 'Aishah, "When the Prophet (saws) was in a state of impurity because of intercourse and wanted to eat or sleep, he would perform ablution." Ammar ibn Yasar reported that the Prophet (saws) permitted a person in post-sex impurity to eat, drink or sleep if he performed ablution first.

Related by Ahmad and at-Tirmidhi.

Abu Sa'eed reported that the Prophet, upon whom be peace, said, "If one has intercourse with his wife and wants to repeat the act, he should perform ablution."

Related by Bukhari and Muslim.

Fiqh-us-Sunnah Fiqh 1.58a

How ghusl is performed

According to the practice of the Prophet (saws) the correct manner of performing ghusl (full bath) is:

1. wash both hands three times,

2. wash the private parts,

3. make a complete ablution (like the one made for prayer--the Prophet (saws) used to delay washing his feet until the end of his ghusl)

4. rub water through one's hair three times, letting the water reach down to the roots of the hair,

5. pour water over the entire body, begining with the right side, then the left, washing under the armpits, inside the ears, inside the navel, inside the toes and whatever part of the body can be easily rubbed. This account is based on the following report from 'Aishah: "When the Prophet (saws) took his bath after sexual intercourse, he would begin by washing his hands. Then he would pour water from his right hand to his left and wash his sexual organs, make the ablution for prayer, take some water and put his fingers to the roots of his hair to the extent that he sees that the skin is wet, then pour water over his head three times and then over the rest of his body." (Related by al-Bukhari and Muslim.)

Sahih Muslim Hadith 603 Narrated byAisha

Abdullah ibn Abdul Qays said, "I asked Aisha about the Witr (prayer) of the Messenger of Allah (saws) and made mention of a hadith, then I said: ‘What did he do after having sexual intercourse? Did he take a bath before going to sleep or did he sleep before taking a bath?’ She said: ‘He did all these. Sometimes he took a bath and then slept, and sometimes he performed ablution only and went to sleep.’ I (the narrator) said: ‘Praise be to Allah Who has made things easy (for human beings).’

The simple step by step procedure for one to purify oneself from sexual impurity according to the established Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws) is:

Make intention to purify oneself in one’s heart

Wash one’s hands

Wash one’s private parts

Perform the wudu

Take a full bath making sure nothing of the body remains dry

Your Question: also i would like to know how i can do toba for having sexing sex whilst i was fasting, is this sin forgivable in the eyes of allaha if 1 repents straights after.

Beloved brother in Islam, having sexual relations with one’s wife while fasting has a prescribed form of atonement in Shariah. Not only is one, who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, required to seek sincere Taubah and forgiveness from his Lord, but he is required to manifest his seeking of forgiveness by performing one of the three prescribed forms of atonement.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.185 Narrated by Abu Huraira

A man came to Allah's Messenger (saws) and said, "O Allah's Messenger (saws) ! I am ruined!" The Prophet (saws) said, "Waihaka (May Allah be merciful to you)!" The man said, "I have done sexual intercourse with my wife while fasting in Ramadan." The Prophet (saws) said, "Manumit a slave." The man said, "I cannot afford that." The Prophet (saws) said; "Then fast for two successive months." The man said, "I have no power to do so." The Prophet (saws) said, "Then feed sixty poor persons." The man said, "I have nothing (to feed sixty persons)." Later a basket full of dates were brought to the Prophet (saws) and he said (to the man), "Take it and give it in charity." The man said, "O Allah's Messenger (saws) ! Shall I give it to people other than my family? By Him in Whose Hand my life is, there is nobody poorer than me in the whole city of Medina." The Prophet (saws) smiled till his premolar teeth became visible, and said, "Take it." Az-Zuhri said (that the Prophet (saws) said), "Wailaka."

Thus one who has transgressed the bounds of Allah Subhanah and had sexual relations with his wife while fasting, then the form of atonement for his sin as prescribed by the Messenger of Allah (saws) is as follows:

Free a slave

If there are no slaves or one cannot afford that, then the atonement is to fast for two consecutive months.

If one’s state of health does not permit him to fast for two consecutive months, then the atonement is to feed sixty poor people.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan