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Sir please put this qs of mine confidential

I am married women i have 2 children. I cover my head according to islam.We live out of Pakistan.

My husband is a nice man. He fullfil almost all his responsibilities. But he chat on net with girls and should himself an unmarried young man .He said that he talk to them the decend stuff. but nowadays he is talking to a divorsed girl on net and sometimes on phone too .She lives in a place as we do (near our house).

i didnot like his chatting because it effects our time which he should give to his family.Due to that we are having some fights .I told him not to talk to that girl but he said clearly i wont stop chatting with her on net and if i want to contact on phone i will do that too.He fells there is no harm in doing that.He thinks he likes to chat and discuss stuff on net specially with girls and there is no harm to chat to girl on net.As much i stop him he goes on doing more and start hiding stuff with me which he wont do before. please suggest me what should i do. please ignore the grammetical and spealling mistakes

I will be grateful if u suggest me soon. 

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Answer:

Husband chatting on internet

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5: This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers, but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time, when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).

Al-Tirmidhi HadithHadith 3118 Narrated byUmar ibn al-Khattab

The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman, the Shaitaan is the third."

It is absolutely forbidden for a believing man, married or unmarried, to engage in ‘vain’ talk with a non-mehram woman. Forming a relationship with a non-mehram woman, and engaging in lewd or vain talk and secret intrigues is specifically forbidden by Allah Subhanah in the Glorious Quran. The Messenger of Allah (saws) warned that when a non-mehram man and woman are alone (either physically or in conversation through modern technology), the Shaitaan is the third amongst them! And the mission of the Shaitaan, the avowed enemy of man, is to make him disobey his Lord and Creator!

Your Question: please suggest me what should i do.

Beloved sister in Islam, the Shaitaan likes nothing better than to create differences between the husband and wife in the family! It is only the fear of Allah, and the thought that One Evitable Day everyone has to stand in His Court and give a full accounting of one’s deeds, that can prevent man disobeying the clear commands of Allah Subhanah.

In our humble opinion, it would be counter-productive to force or fight with your husband to stop talking or chatting to the girl, unless he develops the fear of Allah Subhanah. It would be best to be patient, and try to explain to him his position and responsibility with extreme wisdom and in the most polite manner, and try to instill the fear of Allah Subhanah into him. And above all, remain constant in your supplications to the Merciful Lord, and implore Him to save you and your family from the evil works of Shaitaan.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan