Which woman to marry.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Asalamualikum.. alhamdulilah i`m a practicing muslim. Is it permissible for me to marry a muslim girl who is modern she knows the deen but by the influence of shaitan she is away from it she wants to change but keeps disobeying allah.. if i get married to such a girl with an intention tht may be staying with me in an islamic environment she mite change is it ok and after marriage wht if i keep guiding her and she doesnt listen eg. if i ask her to wear a burqa and she says i will inshallah and then she doesnt will it be a sin on me as well..
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Which woman to marry
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5 (part):
(Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers, but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time: when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who are losers.
Dear and beloved brother, Allah Subhanah has permitted the believers to marry any chaste eligible women from amongst the believers, or any chaste eligible women from amongst the People of the Book (the Jews and the Christians). Provided all the conditions of a Shariah marriage are fulfilled, the marriage itself would be permissible, lawful and legal in the Sight of Shariah.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
When choosing to marry from amongst the eligible women, the Messenger of Allah (saws) guided and recommended the believers to seek and strive to marry a righteous and religious woman. If one disobeys a direct command of Allah and His Messenger (saws), it is obvious that they would be ruined in this world and the Hereafter; but in our humble opinion, if one chooses to act against even an opinion or recommendation of Allah and His Messenger (saws), Allah is our witness brother, they would be utter losers.
Thus brother, in response to your question, if the sister you wish to marry is from amongst the believers, or a Jew, or a Christian.rest assured that the marriage itself would be considered lawful, legal, and valid in the Sight of Shariah. But if you have prior knowledge that the sister might be influenced by the Shaytaan, or that she is away from the deen or negligent in following the dictates of the deen..then it would be best for you to take the advice and recommendation of the Noble Messenger of Allah (saws) and seek to marry a pious and righteous woman, if indeed you wish not to be a loser.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,