" i gave the mehr to my wife on the marriage day itself, she did not say anything while sighning nikah namah,
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assalamualaikum,
brother burhan,
may allah give you reward for the services you r doing 4 muslim umma.
my
question is " i gave the mehr to my wife on the marriage day itself, she
did not say anything while sighning nikah namah, but she always asks me y u pay
me so little mehr in marriage? i always feel ambarrsed by her question. can i
now increase the amount or should i give her very expensive gift to appease
her. please reply as soon as possible.
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Answer:
Small Mehr
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your
Question: my question is " i gave the mehr to my wife on the marriage day
itself, she did not say anything while sighning nikah namah, but she always
asks me y u pay me so little mehr in marriage?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah
Nisaa verse 4:
4 And give the women (on marriage) their dower (mehr) as a free gift;
but if they of their own good pleasure remit any part of it to you, take it and
enjoy it with right good cheer.
Islam has made the determination and presenting of the
‘mehr’ to the woman on marriage an absolutely obligatory condition of ‘Nikaah’
between a man and a woman. Islam has not
specified the exact amount of ‘mehr’ to be presented, but rather any amount of
‘mehr’ which is mutually agreed between the two parties, either proposed by the
groom and accepted by the bride or demanded by the bride and accepted by the
groom, regardless of however big or small it may be, would suffice to fulfill
the obligatory condition of ‘Nikaah’.
A woman of the
The ‘mehr’ in Islam could be as much as a treasure or even
just a couple of paltry sandals depending on the financial status of the party
proposing or demanding it. If your wife agreed to the amount of ‘mehr’ you
proposed at the time of your marriage to her, then that amount would suffice to
fulfill the obligatory condition of ‘mehr’.
Your
Question: i always feel ambarrsed by her question. can i now increase the
amount or should i give her very expensive gift to appease her.
Beloved brother in Islam, the woman is now your wife
united with you in the sacred bond of marriage; thus you can spend on her or
gift her as much as you will and please! If you believe that giving her a huge amount or
an expensive gift will appease her appetite and relieve your guilt at giving
her a small amount of mehr at the time of your marriage, you are well within
your right to do so. She is now your
lawfully wedded wife and there is absolutely no limits in Islam on how much you
may spend on your wife, or how many gifts you may present to her.
Sahih Muslim Hadith 2181 Narrated by
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘Of the wealth
you spend as a contribution in Allah's Cause, or to set free a slave, or as a
Sadaqah given to a needy, or to support your family; the one yielding the
greatest reward (in the Sight of Allah) is that which you spend on your
family.’
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘The most perfect
Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behaviour; and the
best among you are those who behave best towards their wives.’
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "The
best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among
you to my family.”
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and well
wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister