Is marrying for child sin?
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's
Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
If a man is marrying a woman for a the sake of a child and he
doesn`t love the woman, but he loves his ex is that a sin?
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Answer:
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant
and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rum verse 21: And of
Allah’s Sign is that He has created for you wives from your own species, so that you may find peace with them, and (Allah has) created love and mercy
between you. Surely in this there are
many Signs for those who reflect.
What is
enjoined in Islam to a couple who have joined together in the sacred bond of
marriage is that each of them fear Allah and give their partners their due
rights in full, and with perfection and excellence; and that is what builds the
foundation for the true ‘love and mercy’ which Allah Subhanah has bestowed upon
the people who bond themselves in this sacred institution of marriage. To marry and pro-create is a natural
‘fitrah’ of man, and there is absolutely no sin if one marries to pro-create;
provided he gives all the rights that are due from him in full to his spouse in
marriage.
But it
would definitely be considered a sin if a married man loves another non-mehram woman
(his ex or otherwise).
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me. Allah
Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
Wister