Reject proposal on looks alone.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
can a
girl reject a boy based on his looks for proposal?
i got a proposal ,the boy is religious n educated from a godd family. my
parents told me to do isteqarah but im really confused coz im still unable to
understand. the most imp ques is we can rehject a boy based on his looks ..
i
really wanted to trell my parents but at the same time im really scared of
allah coz its a hadeeth wen
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Answer:
Reject proposal on
looks alone
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness
that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your
Question: ….can a girl reject a boy based on his looks for proposal?
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone
with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in
marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation
on earth and extensive corruption.'
As much as the Messenger of Allah (saws) advised and
guided the believers to accept the proposals of one whose character and
practice of religion they were satisfied with…..the bride is well within her
rights in Islam to reject the proposal of any suitor for any reason she wills
and pleases.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.101 Narrated by Aisha
Allah's Messenger (sws) said, "It is
essential to have the consent of a virgin (for her marriage).’ I (Aisha) said, "A virgin feels
shy." The Prophet (saws) said, "Her silence means her consent."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 9.98 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A virgin
should not be married till she is asked for her consent; and the matron
(divorcee, widow, etc.) should not be married till she is asked whether she
agrees to marry or not." It was
asked, "O Allah's Messenger (saws)! How will she (the virgin) express her
consent?" He (saws) said, "By keeping silent."
The final authority regarding whether a proposal of
marriage is accepted or not is with the bride herself; and the consent of the
bride to her marriage is an absolutely obligatory condition of a marriage to be
considered lawful in Shariah. If for any
reason whatsoever, the bride wishes not to agree or give her consent to the
marriage, that marriage would not be lawful in Shariah Law.
As much as Islam guides that the criteria for accepting a
proposal should be based on the character and practice of religion of the
suitor, if for any reason the bride is not satisfied with the ‘looks’ of the
suitor, she is well within her rights to reject the proposal, if that is what she
wishes to do.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister