Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Dear Brother,

Kindly help me, I am a mrried person and fall in love with Married woman. The reason behind I was not happy with my wives and she is too we always fight for many many things and on different issues.

We have a baby girl too.

After few years a woman started working in our office. She started falling in love with me and later me too.

She is also having a baby girl and not staying with her husband from past 9 months approx.

Now the situation is both of us in love. wants to get married, when i offer her to get married and you will be my 2nd wives. Insha Allah i`ll take care of you and your daughter and i`ll treat both the wives equalify, she refused and start cursing me where I had told her everything since we started falling in love.She want me to leave my first wives

but she will take care of my daghter.

When i told her Alhamdolillah I have a capacity to keep two wives and it is permissible according to islam , she is not ready to listen start crying and cursing me. kindly advice according to Quran and Hadith what to do ??

Jazakallah kheir 

(There may be some grammatical and spelling errors in the above statement. The forum does not change anything from questions, comments and statements received from our readers for circulation in confidentiality.)

Answer:

Love married woman unlawful

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: …..kindly advice according to Quran and Hadith what to do ??

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verses 23-24:

23 Prohibited to you (for marriage) are: your mother, daughters, sisters, father's sisters, mother's sisters, brother's daughters, sister's daughters, foster-mothers (who gave you suck), foster-sisters, your wives' mothers, your step-daughters under your guardianship born of your wives to whom ye have gone in no prohibition if ye have not gone in; (those who have been) wives of your sons proceeding from your loins; and two sisters in wedlock at one and the same time except for what is past; for Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful.

24 Also (prohibited are) women already married except those whom your right hands possess. Thus hath Allah ordained (prohibitions) against you: except for these all others are lawful provided ye seek (them in marriage) with gifts from your property desiring chastity not lust. Seeing that ye derive benefit from them give them their dowers as prescribed; but if after a dower is prescribed ye agree mutually (to vary it) there is no blame on you and Allah is All-Knowing All-Wise.

It is absolutely and categorically forbidden for a believer who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day to seek to marry an already married woman!

Al-Muwatta Hadith 28.1

Yahya related from Malik from Muhammad ibn Yahya ibn Habban from al-Araj from Abu Hurayra that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "Do not ask for a woman in marriage when another muslim has already done so."

If the Messenger of Allah (saws) has forbidden the believers to send a proposal to an unmarried woman regarding whom they have prior knowledge that another muslim brother has already sent a proposal seeking her hand in marriage….one can only imagine the enormity of the sin it must be in the Sight of Allah for one who professes belief to seek to marry a woman who is already married to another muslim brother!!! Inna lillahe wa inna ilayhe rajeoon (To Allah we belong and to Him is our ultimate return).

Respected brother, first and foremost, you should fear Allah your Lord; immediately turn back to your Lord in ‘taubah’; seek sincere forgiveness for your manifest transgression; amend your conduct; and totally abstain from maintaining any relationship with any non-mehram woman, leave alone seeking to marry a woman who is already married…..that would be akin to piety and righteousness on your part in the Sight of your Lord.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan