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Pls help me my husband works for a MNC,He works with female colleges,he daily shares tiffin with them,goes out for walk with them,he easily mingles,chats sends jokes & mails with them.some times he even drinks with his male colleges,now he comes home late,&gives excuse for lots of work in the office, He does't even offer namaz sometime that too only juma prayers.when i prohibit him to drink or mingle with female colleges,he says I am born free & living free you dont interfere. I always Pray to Allah to give him hidayath .Recently i saw an sms he had sent to his Female college "my Pleasure Love you"I was very shocked & asked him about this he easily says I sent it just for fun.
Iam really very much worried Iam Having 3 daughters Of age 15,& 6 years.Pls help me how to convince him that he is on the wrong path,Brother Pls help me.
Pls Pray to Allah To gives us Hidayath to lead our life in Islamic Way.
Pls reply Urgently
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Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in marriage, accede to his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on earth and extensive corruption.'
Islam guides that the believing woman should only choose and seek to marry a believer with whose practice of religion and character they are thoroughly satisfied with. If you or your guardians did not take the required striving to investigate or had knowledge of your husband’s unlawful habits prior to your marriage, and you still chose to marry a person whose practice of religion and character was unstable….then obviously you have chosen to put yourself in a trial with your own hands!
Respected sister in Islam, the time to thoroughly satisfy oneself with the character and the practice of religion of one’s husband is before one agrees to marry such a person, not after one has married them!
Respected Sister, if you feel and believe that your husband is sincerely repentant over his past evil deeds….then it would only be piety and righteousness on your part that you forgive and overlook his past deeds, and strive to the best of your ability to maintain a normal marital relationship with him which only befits a believing woman who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day.
But if after your repeated reminders, you have reached a stage where you have lost hope that your husband would ever fear Allah and stop his evil deeds….you are obviously well within your rights to initiate a separation from him through the institution of divorce. But as long as you have hope of improvement in his character and his practice in the deen, and as long as you choose to remain united with him in the sacred bond of marriage…..regardless of whether he chooses to fulfill his rights towards you or not, you as a woman who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day must make sure that you fulfill all the rights of your husband in full. He will be responsible for his deeds in the Presence of his Majestic Lord on that Tumultuous Day of Judgment, and you for yours.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,