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Salam,

Jazak allah khair for your valuable guidance. The option for keeping the distance between child birth shown by you is really good. But there is a risk or chances of being a pregnant for women. Is there any more alternate method of sex with wife if we don't use condoms. Can we have a sex with wife from back side but not inserting the male organ in female's anus. Or can we insert it ?

Also please guide me for the use of alcoholic perfumes. Are perfumes with alcohol are permitted to use ? And can we use it when we are praying Salat.

I shall await for your valuable feedback.

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Answer:

Anal sex and perfume in prayer

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: Is there any more alternate method of sex with wife if we don't use condoms.

As long as one’s intentions are not to permanently stop the birth of children, but rather only to space the ages of their children….one is at absolute liberty in Islam to use any lawful alternate method to practice the spacing between their children, if indeed that is what they wish to do.

Your Question: Can we have a sex with wife from back side but not inserting the male organ in female's anus. Or can we insert it ?

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2157 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘He who has intercourse with his wife through her anus is accursed.’

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3192 Narrated by Khuzaymah ibn Thabit

The Prophet (saws) said, "Allah is not ashamed of the Truth! Do not have intercourse with women through the anus."

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3195 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Abbas

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah will not look at a man who has intercourse with a man or a woman through the anus."

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 3895 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

The Prophet (saws) said: ‘If anyone resorts to a diviner and believes in what he says or has intercourse with his wife when she is menstruating, or has intercourse with his wife through her anus: he has nothing to do with what has been sent down to Muhammad (saws)!’

Allah and His Messenger (saws) have specified as absolutely unlawful and categorically prohibited a believer who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, to have conjugal relations with his wife through the anus….that would constitute an absolute enormity in the Sight of their Lord.

Your Question: Also please guide me for the use of alcoholic perfumes. Are perfumes with alcohol are permitted to use ? And can we use it when we are praying Salat.

Fiqh-us-Sunnah Fiqh 1.24

Anas reported the Messenger of Allah (saws) as saying, "Among the things of this world, I love women and perfume, and the coolness of my eyes is prayer."

Related by Ahmad and an-Nasa'i.

Abu Hurairah reported that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "If someone offers perfume, do not reject it, for it is light to carry and has a sweet scent."

Related by Muslim, an-Nasa'i and Abu Dawud.

Not only is the applying of perfume permissible for the believing men and women in Islam, it is a highly encouraged act and a preferred Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws).

Allah Subhanah has absolutely forbidden the consumption of all types of intoxicants for the believers.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 90:

O you who have believed! ‘Khamr’ (all types of intoxicants), gambling, (ungodly) shrines, and divining devices are all abominable works of Shaitaan; therefore, refrain from these so that you may attain true success!

The thing that invalidates prayer is the presence of impurities on one’s body or clothes. But not all ‘haraam’ (forbidden) things in Islam are impure… for example: gold and silk are declared ‘haraam’ for the believing men, but gold and silk in their essence are not impure substances. Similarly, the majority of the scholars and jurists in Islam are of the opinion that although the consumption of alcohol is ‘haraam’ and absolutely forbidden for the believers, alcohol by itself is not an impure substance. Thus there is no harm if one uses perfumes and the alcohol used in making these perfume touches the clothes or some parts of the body; as long as it is not consumed and entered into the body. The prayer of such a person, if Allah Wills and Pleases, would be acceptable to Him.

The absolute safest and purest and closest to piety would be if the believers change their alcohol based perfumes with the many available ‘ittr’ or perfumes which do not contain any alcohol; and thus absolutely remove any doubts which may exist in their hearts.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan