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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

I am going to be married next month and i just can`t wait to have sex with my wife as u love a lot each other but we dont know the way to sex i mean how it is done does quran tell us if yes then plz tell if no then what?

and also show says that lip kissing is not allowed in islam i say its allowed after marriage

plz tell me the answers

thanks

allah hafiz

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Answer:

Liberty in sex

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: but we dont know the way to sex i mean how it is done does quran tell us if yes then plz tell

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verses 222-223:

222 They ask thee concerning women's courses. Say: ‘They are a hurt and a pollution; so keep away from women in their courses and do not approach them until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves ye may approach them in any manner time or place ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.’

223 Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will. But do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear Allah and know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter) and give (these) good tidings to those who believe.

Beloved brother in Islam, may Allah bless your union and increase the love between you and your wife in marriage. Enjoying conjugal relationship with one’s wife is a natural act, thus one need not worry too much about it.

Islam has allowed the husband and the wife in marriage every possible liberty to enjoy conjugal relations with each other, except three:

It is strictly prohibited to have sexual intercourse with one’s wife during her period of menstruation.

It is strictly prohibited to enter the woman through her anus.

Although there is no specific prohibition mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah, the majority of the scholars in Islam have voiced their opinion against ‘oral’ sex, whereby one touches the other’s private organs with their mouth.

Other than the above three restrictions, one may enjoy conjugal relations with one’s wife any place, any time, and any how according to their heart’s desire.

Abu Dhar al-Ghafari reported: ‘The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: “there is a reward for you [even] in sex with your wife."’ The companions asked: ‘O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a reward if one satisfies his passion?" He (saws) said: "Do you know that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is rewarded."

Related by Ahmad and Muslim.

Your Question: and also show says that lip kissing is not allowed in islam i say its allowed after marriage

It is absolutely permissible in Islam for one spouse to kiss the other anywhere they wish, except their spouse’s sexual organs. There is absolutely nothing in the Quran or Sunnah which prohibits the believers from kissing their wives on their lips, if they wish to do so.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan