Girl will leave islam if no marriage.
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Assalamwalekum
i am sarfaraz from india .and i want to ask you that i love one hindu girl but
she has now started reading namaz and quran as well.she is ready to do
everything for me but my mother does not agree to this ,so accordingly i
beleive i should go with whatever my mother says as mother has a special place
and is said not to be disobedient to mother, but i fear if i leave her she
might as well leave islam ,i am in dillema please guide me according to islam .
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Answer:
Girl will leave
islam if no marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah
Furqaan verse 54:
54 It is He Who has created man from water: then has He
established relationships through blood and (through) marriage: for thy
Lord has Power (over all things).
Islam guides that a marriage is not merely a union of two
people who love each other, but rather a sacred union that unites two whole
families….thus if one is faced with a situation whereby their son is so in
‘love’ with an eligible girl (believer, chaste, etc.) and the parents of the
boy are satisfied with the character and the practice of religion of the
girl…..they should accede with the choice and request of their son.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated
by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is
married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and
her religion. So you should marry the
religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Although the consent of the boy’s parents is not an
obligatory condition of a marriage in Islam, it would only be piety and
righteousness on the part of the son to make sure that he has the approval and
consent of his parents before he marries the girl. If for any reason one finds that their
parents are just not willing to consent to their choice, it would be better to
marry another girl whom the boy and the parents both approve of….for marriage
is but a ‘Sunnah’ (voluntary), but to obey one’s parents is ‘Fard-ayn’ or
absolutely obligatory upon every believer who sincerely believes in Allah and
the Last Day.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated byAbu Umamah
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws)
what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.821 Narrated by Anas
The Prophet (saws) was asked about the ‘Grave
Sins’, and He (saws) replied, "They are:--
(1 ) To join others in worship with Allah,
(2) To be undutiful to one's parents,
(3) To kill a person (which Allah has
forbidden to kill)
(4) And to give a false witness."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud Darda
When a man came to him and said, "I have
a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he
had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the
gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."
Your
Question: i am sarfaraz from
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 221:
221 Do not marry idolatrous women until they believe; a slave woman who believes is better than an idolatrous woman even
though she allure you. Nor marry (your
girls) to idolaters until they believe: a man slave who believes is better than
an idolater even though he allure you.
They (idolaters, disbelievers) do (but) beckon you to the Fire; but
Allah beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of Bliss) and forgiveness, and makes
His Signs clear to mankind: that they may celebrate His Praise.
Respected brother in Islam, as much as the hindu sister
might allure you, it is categorically forbidden for a believer who sincerely
fears Allah and the Last Day to marry an idolatrous women until she sincerely
accepts Islam as her way of life.
If the sister sincerely believes in the Truth of Islam and
of her own will is wiling to revert to the deen of Islam, then and only then
would it be lawful for you to marry this woman of your choice.
Your
Question: …..but i fear if i leave her she might as well leave islam ,i am in
dillema please guide me according to islam .
One should accept Islam because one believes in its
absolute Truth, not because the acceptance of Islam and becoming a ‘muslim’
might bring them some paltry material or worldly benefit, or makes them
eligible to marry a believer! If you
fear that sincere ‘eman’ or faith has not entered the sister’s heart, or you
believe that the revert sister has accepted Islam only because it makes her
eligible to marry you, or you fear that her faith in Allah and the Last Day is
so weak that were you to decline to marry her, she would revert back to her
pagan religion…..then it would only be piety and righteousness on your part in
the Sight of the Lord that you decline to marry such a woman…if indeed you do
not want to be included amongst those who would be in severe loss in this world
and the Hereafter.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated
by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is
married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and
her religion. So you should marry the
religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister