I am in a complete shock because one she went ahead to the Miyasaheb without even informing me and second more because it is against Islam.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
Assalam
walaikum brother,
I would like your guidance for one of my problem in the light of holy Quran and
the hadith of our beloved Prophet (pbuh).
I met a girl with the consent of our parents for marriage. We both liked each
other and even our respective families approved of it. But before furthering
the relation, my mother went to some Miyasaheb to see the faal of the girl from
Quran. The result was not favourable, so she went to some other Miyasaheb and
the result was same. Hence she now came to the conclusion that this girl is not
suitable for me and there is no scope in furthering the relation.
I am in a complete shock because one she went ahead to the Miyasaheb without
even informing me and second more because it is against Islam.
Now what should I do as she has convinced even other members of the family about
it. I am all alone and depressed.
Allah hafiz
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Answer:
Faal future reading
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
The Glorious Quran was revealed by Allah Subhanah as a Book of Guidance and not as a recipe to foretell or find out what the future holds for one in regards to worldly or personal matters like business, commerce, marriage, etc. Allah has bestowed man with intelligence and the power of reasoning, and one must use their bestowed intelligence, wisdom and experience in determining the path that is best suited to them in all such worldly matters.
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 31 Surah Luqmaan verse 34:
34 Verily the knowledge of the Hour is with Allah (Alone). It is He Who sends down rain and it is He
(Alone) Who knows what is in the
wombs. Nor does anyone know what it is that he will earn on the morrow:
nor does anyone know in what land he is to die.
Verily with Allah is full
knowledge and He is acquainted (with all things).
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 72 Surah
Jinn verses 25-27:
25 Say (O Prophet (saws)): "I know not whether the (punishment)
which ye are promised is near or whether my Lord will appoint for it a distant
term.
26 "He (Alone) knows the Unseen, nor does He make any one
acquainted with His Mysteries
27 Except (what He Wills to) a Messenger
whom He has chosen.”
It is absolute misguidance and a
manifestation of the abomination of ‘shirk’ to determine one’s future in the
life of this world by randomly opening a page of any book, or even (Allah forbid)
the Glorious Quran! The people who open
these so-called ‘faals’ and the people who solicit their future from such
unscrupulous ‘moulvis’ and ‘scholars’, both are in manifest sin and will be
held severely accountable in the Court of the Lord Most Majestic for making a
complete mockery of the Guidance of Allah Subhanah!
Your
Question: Now what should I do
Respected brother in Islam, with absolute wisdom and
humility and above all with patience, you should humbly but firmly reason with
your parents regarding the absolute falsehood and folly of the process of
‘faal’ or any type of such futile efforts at future-readings or predictions…..and
with all earnestness, guide your parents to fear Allah Subhanah their Lord and
Creator, and align their beliefs and their practices with the guidance of the
Quran and the Sunnah of the Last and Final Messenger of Allah (saws).
If after your very best efforts, you find that your
parents are still not willing to give their consent to your marriage regarding
the girl of your choice, it would only be piety and righteousness on your part
in the Sight of Allah that you decline that particular proposal and marry
another girl whom both you and your parents approve of…for marriage is but a
‘Sunnah’ in Islam, to be dutiful and obey the lawful commands of one’s parents
is an absolutely obligatory ‘Fard’.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah
Baqarah verse 216:
216 ……But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you
and that ye love a thing which is bad for you.
But Allah Knows and ye know not.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah
Nisaa verse 19 (part):
It may be that ye
dislike a thing and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.
Respected brother, whatever happens or transpires in the
process of your disagreement with your parents, you as a believer who sincerely
fears Allah and the Last Day should make absolutely sure that you do not
transgress the prescribed Boundaries of your Lord…..whatever they might choose
to say or do, you make absolutely sure that you never utter even a word of
dissent or harshness in your conversations with your parents, for that then
would be an abomination in the Sight of the Lord.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah
Bani Israel verses 23-24:
Your Lord has enjoined the following: You should
not worship anyone but Him Alone! Treat
your parents with great kindness; if
either or both of them attain old age, do not even say ‘uff’ to
them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and
pray, “O our Lord, be merciful to them,
just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.”
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated byAbu Umamah
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws)
what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.821 Narrated by Anas
The Prophet (saws) was asked about the ‘Grave
Sins’, and He (saws) replied, "They are:--
(1 ) To join others in worship with Allah,
(2) To be undutiful to one's parents,
(3) To kill a person (which Allah has
forbidden to kill)
(4) And to give a false witness."
Second only to absolute gravest sin and abomination of
‘shirk’ (associating others with Allah Subhanah) in gravity of sins in the
Sight of Allah Subhanah is the disobedience to the lawful commands of one’s
parents!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud Darda
When a man came to him and said, "I have
a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he
had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the
gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and
commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any
other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be
assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister