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Can a 22 years brother kiss his sister on her cheeks (as a brotherhood love)  while she is at the age of 13 yrs. What parameters should we use n wat islam says about this?

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Can brother kiss sister

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: Can a 22 years brother kiss his sister on her cheeks (as a brotherhood love)  while she is at the age of 13 yrs.

Although there is no specific prohibition in Shariah which restricts a brother kissing his sister on the cheeks, piety and righteousness would dictate that it would be best to abstain, lest the accursed Shaytaan put some evil thoughts in either of their hearts. The practice of the Messenger of Allah (saws) when he used to meet his beloved daughter Fatimah (r.a.) was to kiss her on her forehead.

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 5198 Narrated by Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin

I never saw anyone more like the Messenger of Allah (saws) in respect of gravity, calm deportment, pleasant disposition, talk and speech than (his daughter) Fatimah (r.a.). Whenever she came to visit him (the Prophet (saws)), he (saws) got up to (welcome) her, took her by the hand, kissed her (forehead), and made her sit where he (saws) was sitting; and whenever he (saws) went to visit her, she got up to (welcome) him, took him by the hand, kissed him, and made him sit where she was sitting.

Your Question: What parameters should we use n wat islam says about this?

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 33:

33 Say: The things that my Lord hath indeed forbidden are: ‘fahisha’ (shameful or indecent deeds) whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for which he hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye have no knowledge.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 151:

151 Say: "Come I will rehearse what Allah hath (really) prohibited you from": join not anything as equal with Him; be good to your parents: kill not your children on a plea of want; We provide sustenance for you and for them; come not (even) nigh to ‘fahisha’ (shameful or indecent deeds) whether open or secret; take not life which Allah hath made sacred except by way of justice and law: thus doth He command you that ye may learn wisdom.

The Arabic and Quranic term ‘fahisha’ (translated lewdness) is used for absolutely every type of sexual indecency, lewdness, vulgarity, filthiness, profanity, etc. and each and every single manifestation of the evil of ‘faahisha’ is absolutely forbidden for the believers who sincerely believe in Allah and the Last Day.

Such is the despise of ‘fahisha’ in the Sight of Allah Subhanah that not only has He Declared it and its every manifestation absolutely forbidden, prohibited and ‘haraam’ for the believers, but the Lord Most Majestic Most Supreme has Commanded His believing slaves to come not (even) nigh to ‘fahisha’ (shameful or indecent deeds) whether open or secret!

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan