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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Assalamu-alaikum,

I need your help. I came to know about one muslim girl who is in love with a non-muslim guy. Actually this girl is a friend of my wife. She is in deeply love with that non-muslim guy. I tried to explained her that what she is doing is wrong, it`s a SIN, but she is not a position to listen to anything. Please advise me how i should explain her in the light of Islam. She was saying, "can`t we follow our own religions saperately after marriage"? I am concerned about that girl as she is a very good friend of my wife, at the same time, i don`t want her to bring dis-respect to Islam and to her family by marrying a non-muslim guy. Please help me so that i can help her out.

Regards

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Answer:

Muslim girl love disbeliever

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 221:

221 Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters) until they believe; a slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman even though she allure you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: a man slave who believes is better than un unbeliever even though he allure you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the fire. But Allah beckons by His grace to the Garden (of Bliss) and forgiveness and makes His Signs clear to mankind: that they may celebrate His praise.

Beloved Brother in Islam, it is absolutely illegal and unlawful in Islamic Law for a ‘muslim’ woman to marry any other than a ‘muslim’ man; thus a marriage between a believing woman and a disbelieving man would be absolutely unlawful, illegal, invalid and a grave sin in the Sight of Shariah Law and of Allah Subhanah.

But if the disbelieving brother, of his own free will and choice, chooses to revert to Islam and sincerely accept Islam as his way of life, then he will be considered a ‘muslim’ and all the rights that are due to a muslim will be accorded to him in full.

Your Question: Please advise me how i should explain her in the light of Islam

Dear and beloved brother, as much as you may be a genuine and sincere well-wisher of the muslim lady who intends to unlawfully marry a disbelieving man in defiance and transgression of the Laws of Shariah; you can only strive, try, plead, beg, implore and beseech the sister to fear Allah her Lord and not risk her eternal and everlasting life in the Hereafter for a paltry worldly desire! As her brother and genuine well-wisher in faith, you are well within your rights to present all the arguments to her in a polite and humble manner so that she does not transgress the clear and manifest boundaries of her Lord Creator and indulge in the most heinous of sins.

But if even after your very best efforts, the sister is still adamant and defiant to fulfill her desire in open transgression and violation of the Laws and Boundaries of her Lord Creator, she alone will be responsible and accountable for the decisions she makes in the Presence of her Lord Most Majestic, Most Supreme on that Inevitable and Tumultuous Day of Judgment.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan