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As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Assalaawalaikum wa rehmatullah brother,

My question is regarding marriage that Allah says that one who marries completes half of religion , but as in modern times marriages are delayed , people get married even at 30-40 yrs of age, so i would like to ask that for so long time how can these people can satisfy there sexual feeling because we or even I cant say our parents that please arrange our marriage, ISLAM always insists on marriage in early ages as wifes support men n make thier lives prosperous .

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Answer:

Marry early

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3096 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik

Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said, "When a man marries he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.4 Narrated by Abdullah

We were with the Prophet (saws) while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty, and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."

Dear and beloved sister in Islam, it is indeed true that Islam guides the believers who can afford to marry early, to marry as soon as possible….for it helps them guard their chastity.

Although it is not impossible for one to guard their modesty as guided by Islam till one reaches the age of 30-40, the truth is that a person who chooses to delay their marriage to such a late age unnecessarily puts oneself in a severe trial….and because one’s natural sexual desire is strongest when one is in one’s prime of youth, it is very possible that the person might indulge in the unlawful to fulfill his natural desire and thus commit a grave sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.

Thus those who wish to follow the guidance of the modern-educated-but-unGodly and ignorant times in preference to the Guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws), and they chose to delay their marriage….they put upon themselves a burden they are required or obliged to bear if they heed the guidance of Islam!

Your Statement: we or even I cant say our parents that please arrange our marriage,

If one fears that one would not be able to contain or control one’s natural sexual desires until a late age, or one fears that one might get involved in the unlawful if they delay their marriage, and one fears their inevitable accounting in the Presence of their Lord on that Tumultuous Day of Judgment…..one should neither feel ashamed nor embarrassed to request their guardians to arrange their marriage as soon as possible.

Beloved Sister, even if one is ashamed or embarrassed momentarily when doing the right thing in the short and transitory life of this world…..we absolutely assure you this embarrassment of the world would be absolutely insignificant compared to the utter humility and embarrassment one would experience on the Day of Judgment, if Allah forbid, one were to transgress the Limits of the Lord and indulge in the unlawful to fulfill their desire!

It is far far far better to be a little ashamed and embarrassed in front of one’s parents/guardians in doing the ‘right’ thing….than being utterly embarrassed and humiliated and punished in the Presence of the Lord Most Majestic for doing the ‘wrong’ thing!

If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan