.i love a girl who also loves me.before she was not very isleamic but now after i told her she has started wearing burqa and has become quite islamic
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asak.i love a girl who also loves me.before
she was not very isleamic but now after i told her she has started wearing
burqa and has become quite islamic.will she get reward for this?and we both
want to marry each other.so is love marriage lawful in islam?and one moe
problem is that she goes to dargah.how do i convince her not to go there
without offending her.please help.allahafiz
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Answer:
Love marriage lawful
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask
for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever
He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that
there is no one (no idol, no person, no
grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai,
nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that
Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Your Question: is love marriage lawful in
islam?
Dear and Beloved brother in Islam, love-hate,
like-dislike, joy-sorrow, smile-weep, etc. are natural emotions of
mankind! What determines virtue and sin
is what one says or does when one experiences these natural emotions!
To love someone is a natural emotion, and there is
absolutely no sin if one loves another person; it is what one does after one
has fallen in love with that person which would determine whether it would be
counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah or a sin!
If one falls in love, and informs one’s guardians that
they love so and so, and requests them to sanctify their love in the sacred
bond of marriage so that they may love each other for the rest of their lives
would be counted as a virtue and a good deed in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
But if one falls in love, and strives to meet the person
in secret and in private, and in their love transgress the boundaries of Allah
Subhanah before they are united in the sacred bond of marriage; then indeed it
would constitute a huge sin in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Your Question: after i told her she has
started wearing burqa and has become quite islamic.will she get reward for
this?
Sahih Al-Bukhari HadithHadith 3.706 Narrated byUmar bin Al Khattab
The Prophet (saws) said, "The reward of
deeds depend on intentions, and every person will get the reward according to his
intentions. So, whoever migrated for Allah and His Messenger (saws), then his
migration will be for Allah and His Messenger (saws), and whoever migrated for
worldly benefits or for marrying a woman, then his migration will be for what
he migrated for."
The principle for earning rewards in the Sight of Allah
Subhanah depends entirely upon the person who does the deed. If the sister adorned herself with the
‘hijaab’ because her intention was to obey her Creator’s Command, then indeed
she will have her due reward for her obedience; but if her intention to adorn
herself with the ‘hijaab’ was to please or obey her loved ones’, then her
‘hijaab’ is for them.
Your Question: and one moe problem is that she
goes to dargah. how do i convince her not to go there without offending
her.please help
If the sister occasionally visits the ‘dargah’ or
graveyard in her vicinity of some deceased pious slave of Allah with the
intention to supplicate for the deceased, there is no harm. But if the sister visits the ‘dargah’, not to
make supplications for the deceased but rather to invoke or worship the
deceased, or seek the deceased’s intercession for herself or her loved-ones,
then indeed it would constitute an act of the abomination and most heinous
crime of ‘shirk’ in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.
Beloved brother, the only way to convince someone to
abstain from acts of ‘shirk’ is to make them thoroughly understand the concept
of the Power, Strength and Capabilities of the One and Only True Lord and
Creator of the Worlds, Allah Subhanah….and the absolute best way for one to
comprehend the Majesty and Supremacy of the Lord Creator is to read His
Glorious Message, the Al-Quran with understanding.
Allah Says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumar verse 3:
Is it not to Allah
that sincere devotion is due? But those
who take ‘awliyaas’ other than Allah (say): "We only
serve them (the awliyaas) in order that they may bring us nearer to
Allah." Truly Allah will judge between them in that wherein they
differ. But Allah guides not such as are
false and ungrateful.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 10 Surah Yunus
verse 18:
These people serve beside Allah those which can
neither harm nor benefit them, and say, “These are our ‘shofa’a’ (intercessors)
with Allah!” (O Mohammed), tell them,
“Do you wish to inform Allah of that thing which He knows not in the heavens,
or in the earth?” He is absolutely free
from, and exalted above the shirk that
they commit.
Chapter 46 Surah Ahqaf verses 4-6:
Prophet, say to them, "Have you ever seen them with open
eyes those whom you invoke instead of Allah? Show me what they have created in
the earth? Or have they any share in the creation and control of the heavens?
Bring me a Book revealed before this, or produce some remnant of knowledge in
support of your beliefs if you are truthful." And who could be further
astray than the one who invokes, instead of Allah, those who cannot answer him
till the Day of Resurrection. Nay, they are even UNAWARE THAT THEY ARE BEING
INVOKED. And when all mankind shall be gathered together (on the Day of
Qiyamah), they (the so called leaders and intercessors) will become enemies of
those who invoked them and they will DISOWN THEIR WORSHIP!!!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 18 Surah
Kahf verse 102:
What? Do
these people, who have disbelieved, presume that they would make My servants
their ‘auliyaas’ besides Me? We have prepared
Hell for the hospitality of such people.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 72:
Whoever commits
‘shirk’ (invoking anything with Allah),
Allah shall forbid for him
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to
Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only
Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister