Divorced wish to marry again
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dear brother burhan
how r u and how is your health brother i would like to know about
divorce and after divorce if the girl and the guy want to get together again
what all things we should do to get together after divorce pls reply my
question this is important to me brother and i want this to be secret
your brother
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Answer:
Divorced
wish to marry again
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verses 229-231:
229 A divorce is only permissible twice: after that the parties should
either hold together on equitable terms or separate with kindness. It is not lawful for you (men) to take back
any of your gifts (from your wives) except when both parties fear that they
would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah. If ye (judges) do indeed fear that they would
be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah there is no blame on either of
them if she give something for her freedom. These are the limits ordained by
Allah; so do not transgress them. If any
do transgress the limits ordained by Allah such persons wrong (themselves as
well as others).
230 So if a husband divorces his wife (irrevocably) he cannot after that
remarry her until after she has married another husband and he has divorced
her. In that case there is no blame on
either of them if they reunite provided they feel that they can keep the limits
ordained by Allah. Such are the limits
ordained by Allah which He makes plain to those who understand.
231 When ye divorce women and they fulfil the term of their (`Iddat)
either take them back on equitable terms or set them free on equitable terms;
but do not take them back to injure them or to take undue advantage; if anyone
does that He wrongs his own soul. Do not
treat Allah's Revelations as a jest but solemnly rehearse Allah's favors on you
and the fact that He sent down to you the Book and Wisdom for your
instruction. And fear Allah and know that
Allah is well acquainted with all things.
Islam has
permitted the man to pronounce a total of three divorces in any one marriage;
the first two of the three divorce rights are revocable, but if the man
pronounces the third divorce, it will be absolutely final and irrevocable.
Thus if
the husband has pronounced either the first or the second divorce in his
marriage, he has a time limit of three menses periods after the pronouncement
of divorce to take his wife back. If the husband does take his wife back before
the expiry of this ‘waiting period’, there is no need for a new ‘nikaah’ but
one of his three divorce rights in the marriage will be deemed utilized.
If the
‘waiting period’ of three menses periods has expired after the pronouncement of
the first or the second divorce and the man and the woman wish to remarry
again; then there has to be a brand new ‘nikaah’ contract between the two, and
a brand new ‘mehr’ has to be determined.
This
procedure of announcing divorce and remarrying is only permitted twice in any
one marriage. If the husband was to
pronounce divorce on his wife for a third time, then it will be considered a
final and irrevocable divorce in Islam.
There is absolutely no way this man and this woman can remarry after the
pronouncement of the third divorce, unless the woman marries and consummates
her marriage with another man; and the new husband dies, or of his own will and
choice, divorces her. Only after this
the woman would be eligible to marry her first husband by performing a new
nikaah and upon the determination of a new ‘mehr’.
Your
Question: after divorce if the girl and the guy want to get together again what
all things we should do to get together after divorce
What
needs to be determined to answer your question, is how many divorces were
announced by the man in this particular marriage. If one or two divorces were announced, then
the couple have an option to remarry; but if the third and irrevocable divorce
has been announced there is absolutely no way for the couple to marry again,
unless and until the girl marries and consummates her marriage with another
man; and the new husband dies, or of his own free will and choice divorces her.
These are the limits ordained by Allah; so do not transgress
them. If any do transgress the limits
ordained by Allah such persons wrong (themselves as well as others). (Quran
2:229)
Do not treat Allah's Revelations as a jest but solemnly rehearse
Allah's favors on you and the fact that He sent down to you the Book and Wisdom
for your instruction. And fear Allah and
know that Allah is well acquainted with all things. (Quran 2:231)
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me. Allah
Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan