My question refers to a Hadith according to which majority of women will go to hell because of being ungrateful and scolding towards their husbands
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AOA. My question refers to a Hadith according to which majority of women will go to hell because of being ungrateful and scolding towards their husbands. Seeking forgiveness of Allah (swt), i want to ask that a lot of women are being tortured by their husbands during the course of thier lives, lots of them are victims of wife battering , domestic violence and other atrocities, why then its the woman who has to face the fires of hell in the hereafter??? if we look around ,its the majority of women who are being wronged by their husbands and who suffer the cruelties of their husbands, why then Islam leaves no consolation for this oppressed creature in the hereafter ??? and why is it so that a man will not be held accountable for being cruel towards his wife ??? over to you with kind regards
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Husband-Wife relations
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Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none
can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright.
We bear witness that there is no one (no idol,
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prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone,
and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of
His Messengers.
Your Statement: My question refers to a Hadith according to which majority of women will go to hell because of being ungrateful and scolding towards their husbands.
The exact words of the hadith are as follows:
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.125 Narrated
by Abdullah bin Abbas
The Prophet (saws):
“I saw the (Hell) Fire, and I have never before seen such a horrible sight as
that, and I saw that the majority of its dwellers were women." The people asked, "O Messenger of Allah
(saws)! What is the reason for that?"
He (saws) replied, "Because of their ungratefulness." It was said. "Do they disbelieve in Allah
(are they ungrateful to Allah)?"
He (saws) replied, "They are not thankful to their husbands, and
are ungrateful for the favors done to them.
Even if you do good to one of them all your
life, when she seems some harshness from you, she will say, "I have never
seen any good from you.' "
The Messenger of Allah (saws)
was guiding the believing woman from being ungrateful to their husbands, and
reminded them that how hated it is in the sight of Allah Subhanah
for a wife to say to a righteous husband, when after being good and fair to his
wife all his life, he makes one error, and the wife with her harsh words,
washes away all the good done to her.
Islam guides both the husband
and the wife to be merciful, forgiving, and fore-bearing with each other; only
then can there be peace, mutual love and respect, and tranquility in one’s family life.
Your Question: i want to ask that a lot of women are being tortured by their husbands during the course of thier lives, lots of them are victims of wife battering , domestic violence and other atrocities, why then its the woman who has to face the fires of hell in the hereafter???
Every person, whether he be male or female, will have to pay for his/her misdeeds in
the Just Court of the All-Mighty Lord.
If a husband abuses the authority and responsibility laid
upon him by Allah Subhanah, and tortures his wife, or
beats her unjustly, and oppresses and tyrannizes her; he will indeed have a
severe accounting of his evil deeds in the Presence of The All-Just Lord.
If the man is good and
righteous, and respects and honors his wife, and gives her the rights that are
due to her in accordance with the Guidance of Allah and His Messenger, he will
be rewarded and honored for his good deeds.
The Prophet (saws)
said in an authentic narration: ‘The
best amongst you is the one who is best to his wife; and I (saws) am best to my
wife.”
He (saws) also said
in another authentic narration: “The best wealth is the wealth one spends on his
wife and children.”
And if a woman is righteous,
worships Allah Subhanah in accordance with the
Guidance, and
her husband is pleased with her; she
will have a huge reward in the Presence of her Merciful Lord.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254 Narrated by Anas
ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger
(saws) said, "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during
Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of
the gates of
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 286 Narrated by Umm Salamah
The Prophet (saws)
said: “If a woman dies while her husband
was pleased with her, she will enter
The decision of Allah Subhanah on who deserves
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan
verse 195: And
their Lord hath accepted of them and answered them: "Never will I suffer to be lost the work
of any of you, be he male or female:
ye are members one of another; those who have left their homes or been
driven out therefrom,
or suffered harm in My cause, or
fought, or been slain, verily I will blot out from them their iniquities
and admit them into gardens with rivers flowing beneath; a reward from the presence of Allah, and from His presence is the best of
rewards."
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa
verse 124:If any do deeds of
righteousness, be they male or female, and have faith they will enter
heaven and not the least injustice will be done to them.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 35: For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for devout
men and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and
constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give
in charity, for men and women who
fast, for men and women who guard their
chastity, and for men and women who
engage much in Allah's praise; for them
has Allah prepared forgiveness and a great reward.
Your Question: if we look around ,its the majority of women who are being wronged by their husbands and who suffer the cruelties of their husbands, why then Islam leaves no consolation for this oppressed creature in the hereafter ???
Islam gives consolation to the
oppressed like no other deen in the world!!! Islam commands the oppressor to fear Allah,
His Might, and His Retribution before he even thinks of oppressing someone; and
assures the oppressed that in the life of the Hereafter, he/she will be recompensed
in full. Everything that a person
does, good or bad, small or big, is recorded in an open register; and on an
Inevitable Day, each
person will carry his own record and present himself before his All Just Lord
for a full accounting.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.629 Narrated
by Abu Huraira
The Messenger of
Allah (saws) said, "Whoever has oppressed another person concerning his
reputation or anything else, he should beg him to forgive him before the Day of
Resurrection, when there will be no money (to compensate for wrong deeds); but
if he has good deeds, those good deeds will be taken from him according to his
oppression which he has done, and if he has no good deeds, the sins of the
oppressed person will be loaded on him."
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.628 Narrated
by Ibn Abbas
The Prophet (saws)
sent Mu'adh to
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2603 Narrated by Abbas
ibn Mirdas
Allah's Messenger (saws)
prayed for pardon for his people on the late evening of Arafah,
and received the reply (from Allah Subhanah), "I
have forgiven them all, but acts of oppression, for I shall exact recompense
for him who is wronged, from his oppressor."
Your Question: and why is it so that a man will not be held accountable for being cruel towards his wife ???
Dear and beloved Sister in
Islam, our Lord is not an Un-Just Lord!
Every individual, whether he be male or female,
will be accountable in the Just Court of Allah for his deeds; and no one will
be dealt with unjustly in the Presence of the All-Just Lord!
If a man has been cruel to his
wife unjustly, he will have a severe accounting in the Just Court of Allah Subhanah! None will
be able to avoid His Justice, and no amount of ransom will be accepted from the
guilty ones! Every single soul will be
heard and dealt fairly and with justice, and no one will be wronged in the
least in The Supreme Court of Allah Subhanah! The evil may be able to get away from justice
in the life of this transitory world; but in the Court of Allah Subhanah, no guilty person will have the power or ability
to offer an excuse when he will come face to face with the One who is Best and Able to Exact Retribution! And none can exact retribution like the
Retribution of the All Mighty Lord of the worlds.
Can any deen
or system in the world offer more security to the oppressed, and put more fear
into the oppressor than this approved deen of the
Lord of the Worlds, Al Islam?
Glory be
to Allah, and High and Far Exalted is He, in Whose Hands is the Dominion of the
heavens and the earth.
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
Wister