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Dear Brother in Islam,
What is Waleema? Should Waleema feast given after having sexual intercourse or the feast can e given before performing the act ?

Please advice,

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Answer:

Walima before intercourse

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Your Question: What is Waleema?

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.395 Narrated by Anas

The Prophet (saws) seeing a yellow mark (of perfume) on the clothes of 'Abdur-Rahman bin 'Auf, said, "What about you?" 'Abdur-Rahman replied, "I have married a woman with a Mahr of gold equal to a date-stone." The Prophet (saws) said, "May Allah bestow His Blessing on you (in your marriage). Give a wedding banquet, (Walima) even with one sheep."

The Way or Sunnah of the Prophet (saws) was that after the Nikaah, he (saws) urged the believers to celebrate the joyous occasion of marriage with a marriage feast or ‘Walima’. The main wisdom behind holding the wedding feast or ‘walima’ is to announce one’s marriage to the family, friends and society one lives in.

Your Question: Should Waleema feast given after having sexual intercourse or the feast can e given before performing the act ?
There is no specific time limit ordained in the Sunnah for one to offer one’s ‘walima’ after one’s marriage; but wisdom dictates that one should offer this Sunnah and hold one’s wedding banquet as soon as possible or is easy for him to do so.

The fulfillment of conjugal relations in one’s marriage has absolutely no bearing on the timing of the ‘walima’; it is absolutely permissible and acceptable in Islam to offer the ‘walima’ or marriage banquet immediately after one’s Nikaah or as soon as is easy and convenient for them.

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Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan