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ASAK , My Question is I am in Love with a girl ,i am willing to Marry her ,But She is a NON MUSLIM , and she is agreed to Adopt Islam , But our parets are against for our marriage
Please advice what to be done . 

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Answer:

Marriage non muslim

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Your Question: My Question is I am in Love with a girl ,i am willing to Marry her ,But She is a NON MUSLIM , and she is agreed to Adopt Islam

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 221: Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters) until they believe; a slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman even though she allure you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: a man slave who believes is better than un unbeliever even though he allure you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the fire. But Allah beckons by His grace to the Garden (of Bliss) and forgiveness and makes His Signs clear to mankind: that they may celebrate His praise.

If the non-believing sister, of her own free will, is sincerely willing to accept Islam as her way of life, it would be absolutely permissible in Islam for a believer to seek her hand in marriage.

My dear and beloved brother in Islam, one only has to declare the ‘shahaadah’ or testimony of faith that there is no god except Allah and Mohamed (saws) is His Messenger to enter into the fold of Islam. Anyone who declares the ‘shahaadah’ will be considered a legal muslim in the Sight of Islamic Law and the believers, and absolutely all the rights without exception that are due to a believer will be accorded to them in full.

But if one declares the ‘shahaadah’ only to fulfill the legal process of marriage with a believer and has no intention to accept and follow Islam; or one conspires with the disbeliever to declare the ‘shahaadah’ knowing that the disbeliever has absolutely no intentions to accept and follow Islam….. although their marriage will be considered absolutely legal in the sight of Islamic Law and the believers in the life of this world, their accounting with the All-Knowing Lord on the Day of Judgment will be very severe indeed.

Your Statement: But our parets are against for our marriage
My dear and beloved brother in Islam, it is absolutely imperative and obligatory upon one who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day to be absolutely obedient and dutiful to their parents. You may, with absolute respect, humility, politeness, and tenderness try to convince your parents to agree to your choice in marriage; but if they absolutely disagree and do not give their consent, it would be prudent and considered righteousness on your part to obey your parents; for marriage is but a Sunnah (voluntary) in Islam, but obedience to one’s parents is ‘Fard-Ayn’ (absolutely obligatory).

If after your trying with humility and patience you are still unable to convince and attain the consent of your parents, and you sacrifice your desire to marry the woman you desire only because your Lord Creator has commanded you to be dutiful and obedient to your parents, Allah is our witness brother, the rewards you will receive from your Lord Most Gracious on the Day of Judgment for obeying His Commands will be unimaginable.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud Darda

When a man came to him and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan