Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

i have a muslim friend, and he`s more than friend, and if i want to get marry with him, i know i have to do nikkah. which is their customs that i understand and i agree to that, but my dream to get marry in both ways hindu way and muslim way, so he can also understand my tradition, so last time we have argue that he can marry me in hindu way, but he wont consider me as my wife, but i consider him as a husband in both ways of marriage, why then he don`t wannt to consider me as a wife when he perform hindu way, he said i could be his wife by doing nikkah only, but as god is one, both marriages are performing infront of god so i want to explain him if he marries me in hindu way too, still i am your wife. and after that i can perform muslim wedding too. please let me know why this happen when god is one and marriage is performing infront of god, so why he can`t accept me from the hindu wedding as i am accepting him on both ways of wedding. he said he`ll do it in hindu way too, but he wont` be accept me as wife, this mean is he insulting my traditions, as god is one, then why: we are performing infront of god: 

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Answer:

Hindu girl wishes Hindu and Muslim marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Dear Sister in Humanity, the issue is much much deeper than the simple rituals or rites of a marriage between two individuals who follow two distinct and separate religions; for the truth is that the belief system between the way of life called Islam and the Hindu way of life is absolutely poles apart!

The differences in the Islamic belief and worship of the One and Only God and the Hindu belief in the appointment and worship of millions of gods and deities, the differences in the concept of life after death, the differences in the mission of one’s lives, the differences in the permissible and forbidden of each religion, etc. are so vast and so diverse that it would be absolutely impossible for either to live in peace and harmony in this sacred institution called marriage! The religion of Islam has recognized these differences, and instead of allowing its followers to harm themselves not only in the life of this world but also in the everlasting life of the Hereafter, it has absolutely forbidden the believers to marry amongst any of the polytheist beliefs.

Islam absolutely promotes the idea of marriage, so that two people might commit themselves in the sight of their Creator to live in peace, mercy, harmony and tranquility with each other. If a simple and insignificant issue like the rite or ritual of marriage is such an issue between the two of you, you can only imagine what would happen when two people who have completely different set of beliefs try to live their whole lives together!

The issue of differences in beliefs is not something inconsequential and insignificant as it is made out to be in these modern-educated but ungodly times; for unlike other beliefs where only the skeletons of rites and rituals of the religion survive, Islam is an absolute and complete way and code of life, which effects the actions of a believer in every single aspect of his life! Although it is widely propagated that differences in beliefs are inconsequential between two people in ‘love’; those who have faced this trial will vouch that when the ‘honeymoon’ period is over everyday life becomes unbearable and the sacrifices made by the spouses is absolutely excruciating, not only amongst themselves, but amongst the two extended families and the off-springs that result from this union; thus destroying the peace and harmony of not only one’s own lives, but also those of one’s loved ones!

Islam has recognized these vast differences, and guided its followers to save themselves from putting themselves in such unwarranted trials of life; and choose to marry someone only if their beliefs are based on monotheism.

Thus my beloved sister in humanity, the best and most prudent path would be to thoroughly read, study and understand the concept of Islam from the source of guidance, the Al-Quran; and only if this system of belief absolutely satisfies your heart and intellect, accept it and submit to its guidance. I swear by the One Who Created everything in existence, it will be a source of peace for you not only in the transient and short life of this world, but also for your everlasting life in the Hereafter.

The All-Wise and All-Knowing Creator has bestowed every individual with two things which He has not bestowed upon any in His creation:

Intelligence or The Power of Reasoning

A Free Will to choose the Path one wishes to live one’s life.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 18 Surah Kahf verse 29: Proclaim, “This (Quran) is the Truth from your Lord: now whosoever wills may accept it, and whosoever wills may reject it.”

If you cannot bring yourself to accept and submit to the Message of the Book of Guidance revealed by the Creator, then you are well within your rights bestowed upon each and every individual by the Creator to remain in the religion of your choice and choose to marry someone who is closer to your set of beliefs.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan