Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Salaam, I had this very good doubt abt kissing, i have had neva kissed (french is what they name it) nor has my going to be wife, in what terms than can we obtain that teaching. secondly is physical touching allowed after engagement ? thx - and i pray to almighty Allah (pbuh) to bless all of those who are workin for this noble cause...ameen 

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Answer:

Kissing or touching Fiance

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

If the ‘nikaah’ between you and your wife is already done, you may touch, kiss, or enjoy complete physical relationships with her. But if you are only engaged to the woman, and the ‘nikaah’ is not yet done; you are not permitted to be with her alone in Islam, leave alone touch her!

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan