Smoking and masturbation
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Question 1 . Is thier tips on how to quit masterbation and what is
the punishment for masterbation
Question 2 . Can I have a girlfrind some say yes some say no I
need to clear that up
Question 3 . My mom seys smoking is not a sin ( she does not smoke
) but smoking weed is a sin (thier is alot of weed in my school but I
never smoked yet ) is weed a sin also ?
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Answer:
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Q-1:
Is thier tips on how to quit masterbation and what is the punishment for
masterbation
It is
indeed good and righteous of you that you have recognized this evil habit as
displeasing to the Merciful Lord, and
are trying to stay away from it.
‘Fahesha’ or indecency is one of the strongest weapons of the accursed
enemy of man, the Shaitaan; who has sworn to mislead and misguide mankind
from the Straight Path of Allah Subhanah.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 268: The
Shaitaan threatens you with poverty and prompts you to adopt indecency (or
acts of shamelessness). Allah
promiseth you His forgiveness and bounties,
and Allah careth for all, and He
knoweth all things.
The only
thing that can stop one from acts of indecency,
or intentionally disobeying any command of Allah and His Messenger
(saws); is the fear and consciousness
that One Day, everyone will be brought
forth in the Presence of the All-Mighty Lord to give a full accounting of one’s
deeds.
The first
thing one needs to do, when he realizes
that he has disobeyed any command of Allah and His Messenger (saws), is to immediately turn to the Merciful Lord
and seek His Forgiveness and Pardon, and
make a solemn covenant that he will not repeat the mistake again. When Shaitaan again tries to prompt the
person to disobey the Merciful, the
believers must immediately realize the play of Shaitaan, seek refuge in Allah from the accursed
Shaitaan, remember the covenant he has
made with His Lord, and abstain from
doing any deed that will bring about the Wrath and Anger of Allah Subhanah.
After one
has made a solemn promise to his Lord that he would not commit the mistake
again, and has a genuine willingness to abide by the promise made to his Lord;
he should seek constant help from the Merciful Lord to stay on the Straight
Path.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 23: They
(Prophet Adam and his wife, Hawwa) said: "O our Lord! We have wronged our own souls: if Thou
forgive us not, and bestow not upon us Thy mercy, we shall certainly be
lost."
As soon
as one feels the desire, or the avowed enemy of man, the Shaitaan suggests the
person to transgress any of the boundaries of Allah Subhanah; the believers should immediately seek the
refuge and protection of the All-Mighty Lord from the accursed Shaitaan by
saying: “Aoodobillahe minas Shaitaan ar rajeem”. If the person is sincere in seeking refuge
and protection, Allah Subhanah will protect him from the assaults of Shaitaan.
Some
other things the believers may do at such a stage is do the ‘wudu’, offer
prayers, or recite the 113th and 114th Surahs of the
Quran (Surah Falaq and Surah Naas) and seek protection from the accursed
Shaitaan.
The
long-term remedy for keeping the Shaitaan at bay, is to constantly remember
Allah Subhanah, seek and stay in the company of the righteous, recite the
Quran, read good Islamic Books, listen to good Islamic cassettes and
lectures, and strive to stay away from
being in solitude.
If one is
constantly in the face of non-mehram women, or if one regularly watches commercial
television and movies, or regularly
reads commercial magazines, etc. where ill-clad women are constantly
portrayed; there is a greater chance the
person will be swayed by the suggestions of Shaitaan towards ‘fahisah’ and
indecency. If one strives to abstain
from these devices of Shaitaan, and
makes efforts to remain close to the Remembrance and Guidance of Allah
Subhanah, he will be successful in muting the ploys of the Shaitaan.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 27: O ye children of Adam! Let
not Shaitaan seduce you in the same manner as he got your parents (Adam and
Hawwa) out of the Garden, stripping them of their raiment to expose their
shame: for he and his tribe watch you from a position where ye cannot see them:
We made the evil ones friends (only) to those without faith.
If we can
only cultivate the solemn belief in ourselves that The All Knowing is watching
every thing that we do, and fear the
standing in His Majestic Presence on an Inevitable Day to give a full
accounting of our deeds; we will strive
never to transgress the boundaries laid by Allah and His Messenger (saws).
Q-1A:
what is the punishment for masterbation
There is
no particular punishment in the life of this world prescribed in the Shariah
for one who is guilty of committing the sin of ‘masturbation’; but it is indeed
a heinous sin in the sight of the Lord, and the one who commits this sin will
be held severely accountable on the Day of Judgment in the Presence of The
Majestic Lord.
Q-2:
Can I have a girlfrind some say yes some say no I need to clear that up
In
Islam, the relationship between man and
woman is segregated in two parts. One is
the ‘mehram’ relationship, and the other
‘non-mehram’. Mehram relationships are
considered sacred and absolutely allowed in Islam. Non-Mehram relationships between a man and
woman may give rise to illegal emotions,
and there is always the chance of establishing an illicit
relationship, and this is forbidden in
Islam.
Allah, Who created everything in existence along
with its nature, has made a natural
physical attraction between man and the woman.
And Allah has allowed a legal way to accommodate this natural physical
attraction between a non-mehram man and woman,
through the institution of ‘nikaah’
or marriage.
Islam
does not permit the casual friendship between a non-mehram man and woman, as
this sort of friendships sow the seeds of destructions of morals in
society. The biggest evidence of this
degradation of morals can be seen in the societies which have allowed these non-mehram
relationships to flourish.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 53: If
you (the noble companions of the Prophet) have to ask the wives of the Prophet
for something, ask for it from behind a
curtain. This is a better way for the
purity of your, as well as their hearts.
The above
command is for some of the most noble and best people who ever lived on this
planet earth; the companions of the
Prophet, and the chaste and noble wives
of the Prophet of Allah (saws). Allah
commands the companions of the Prophet that if they have to ask for something
from the wives of the Prophet, they
should do so from behind a veil or a curtain,
because this way is better and purer for both, the companions and the wives of the Prophet
(saws). No people could have
controlled their emotions and feared Allah more than the noble companions and
the chaste wives of the Prophet; but
even to such noble souls, Allah has
commanded that it is purer and better that if they need to talk to the wives of
the Prophet, they should do so from
behind a curtain.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118 Narrated
by Umar ibn al-Khattab
The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a
woman the Shaytaan makes a third."
In light
of the Holy Quran, and the various
authentic narrations of the Messenger of Allah (saws), with the exception of
marriage, it is forbidden for a
non-mehram man to have any sort of
friendship with a non-mehram woman.
Q-3:
My mom seys smoking is not a sin ( she does not smoke ) but smoking weed is a
sin (thier is alot of weed in my school but I never smoked yet ) is weed a sin
also ?
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraat verse 157: (So, now mercy has been assigned to those) who follow
this Messenger, the Gentile
Prophet, whose mention they shall find
in the Torah and the Gospel with them.
He enjoins them to do good and forbids them from evil; he makes pure things ‘halaal’ for them
and impure things ‘haraam’; he
relieves them of their burdens and frees them from the shackles (of rites and
rituals) that bound them. For this
reason, those alone who believe in
him, support him, succour him,
and follow the Light that has been sent down with him shall attain true
‘success’.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.267 Narrated
by An Numan bin Bashir
The Prophet (saws) said "Both, halaal and haraam things are
obvious, and in between them are (suspicious) doubtful matters. So whoever forsakes those doubtful things
lest he may commit a sin, will definitely avoid what is clearly illegal; and
whoever indulges in these (suspicious) doubtful things bravely, is likely to
commit what is clearly illegal."
Beloved
brother in Islam, the least (or most)
one can say is that ‘smoking’ is closer to the haraam than to the halaal; and in keeping with the guidance of the above
quoted hadith of the Messenger of Allah
(saws), it would be closer to piety to
abstain from it for without a doubt smoking is considered a sin in Islam.
And Allah
Subhanah Alone Knows Best.
Q-3A:
is weed a sin also ?
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verses 90-91:
90 O ye who believe! Intoxicants, and
gambling, (dedication of) stones, and (divination by) arrows, are an
abomination of Shaytaan's handiwork;
Eschew such (abomination) that ye may prosper.
91 Shaytaan's plan is (but)
to excite enmity and hatred between you with intoxicants and gambling, and hinder you from the remembrance of Allah
and from prayer: will ye not then abstain?
Anything
that intoxicates when consumed is forbidden for the believers, who sincerely believe in Allah and the Last
Day. There is absolutely no doubt that
‘weed’ is an intoxicant; and as
such, it is absolutely prohibited in
Islam.
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me. Allah
Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
Wister