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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

Dear Brother,

My English is little rusty pls manage.

Pls do tel me & I would like to knw clearly I knw ur ans But still I want to take him out from this nonsense wat they r doing rit now.

I have frnd, He is having lack off  knwldg in Islam he knw abt Islam but he wont follow he only pray Juma rest all they days he wont as I no from him self.

He has a affair with one girl she is elderly for him by 3 to 4 yrs & she got married to ther  guy  coz at that time my frnd was not in a position to marry her coz he was a student & that girl elder in her fmly now she is having 2 kids from the same married person.

Now my doubt is my frnd & that girl  till dated they have a affair they speak , they meet, Rome & this guy ( my frnd) planned to marry her I asked him  how u'll marry ? & I asked him wat she v'll do whether she gona give divorce to him(husband) or u guys planned to kill him( I'm just kidding him,sorry) I oftenly  ask this to my frnd but he is telling I believe in miracles I don't know wat is in his mind wat they r going to do but that girls husband love her a lot she keeps on telling to him(my frnd) this & he (her husband) is a good frnd of my frnd ( her boy frnd) U pls tell me how to take out him from this nonsense ,stupid behavior coz in this their nonsense attitude is going to spoil every once life (husband,kids. im feeling pity sad on her husband really very bad wat nonsense they r doing ) my frnd says he will accept  the kids I don't know wat the hell they r trying to do .

Pls advise me how to take out from that girl I wont blame that girl coz both of them love like a crazy I'm worried coz he is only one child( my frnd) to his parents.& his father is a Heart patient

Thanks for ur help

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Answer:

Help friend to avoid sin

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

For two non-mehram unmarried members of the opposite sex to develop or maintain a ‘relationship’ out of wedlock is by itself a heinous sin in the Sight of Allah…..but for a believing married woman to develop a ‘relationship’ with a non-mehram man out of marriage, or for an unmarried believing man to maintain a ‘relationship’ with an already married woman would be an absolute abomination and a crime beyond compare in the Sight of the Lord Most Majestic Most Supreme!

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Israa verse 32:

Do not even go near ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery) for it is a very indecent thing and a very evil way!

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 33:

33 Say (O Prophet (saws)): ‘The things that my Lord hath indeed (absolutely) forbidden (declared ‘haraam’) are: shameful deeds whether open or secret; sins and trespasses against truth or reason; assigning of partners to Allah for which he hath given no authority; and saying things about Allah of which ye have no knowledge.

To say that the unlawful and absolute abomination of the ‘affair’ that the two are involved in would incite and unleash the Wrath and Anger of the Lord upon them would be an understatement!

If your ‘friend’ and the married woman with whom he is apparently involved in an ‘affair’ do not fear Allah, turn to Him in sincere repentance, and immediately desist and bring their ‘relationship’ to an absolute full stop…..Allah is our witness sister, the evil, pain, anguish and the absolute and utter turmoil which their this ‘secret little affair’ may bring upon their own lives and the lives of their loved-ones cannot even be imagined or fathomed!; and that would only be the chaos and turbulence they brought on their own in the life of this short and transitory world, leave alone their state of utter desperation when they are ultimately presented before their Lord Most High to give a full accounting of their deeds on that Inevitable and Tumultuous Day of Judgment!!!!

Your Question: ……U pls tell me how to take out him from this nonsense ,stupid behavior coz in this their nonsense attitude is going to spoil every once life

Dear and beloved Sister in Islam, as much as you may wish well for your ‘friend’….but the truth is that when one himself is bent upon sin, knowing that what he is doing or about to do is an abomination….there is very little their sincere well-wishers can do except warn them to fear Allah their Lord and Creator, and desist from their evil. Another thing you can and should do as their well-wisher is make sincere and constant supplications to your Lord for them, beseeching Him to have mercy and forgive those involved in the sin, and imploring Him to guide them towards piety and righteousness…….beyond that sister, there is very little you can do to help someone who does not wish to help themselves!

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

Burhan