How to please husband?
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Aslamulaikum burhan bhai!,
i wanted to ask you 2 questions more, and they are :-
Q1: Nowadays people think that women is a machine to produce kids and nothing
else, people divorce them if they don`t give or aren`t able to produce a child,
will this be sinful for men? or this should happen if women doesn`t produces
any son/daughter?
Q2: what does a women (wife) do to please his husband (like wat should be
neccessary)?
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Answer:
How to
please husband?
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Q-1:
Nowadays people think that women is a machine to produce kids and nothing else,
people divorce them if they don`t give or aren`t able to produce a child, will
this be sinful for men? or this should happen if women doesn`t produces any
son/daughter?
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rum verse 21: And of
Allah’s Sign is that He has created for you wives from your own species, so that you may find peace with them, and (Allah has) created love and mercy
between you. Surely in this there are
many Signs for those who reflect.
Beloved
brother in Islam, although pro-creation is one of the needs of mankind, if one
takes this very narrow view and treats women like a machine only to produce
children and nothing else; he completely misses upon the peace, tranquility,
harmony, and the love and mercy Allah Subhanah has prescribed between two
God-fearing people who choose to marry and live their lives with each other.
The believers
who sincerely believe in Allah Subhanah, the Last Day, and the Divine Power and
Qadr of the All-Mighty Lord should know that bearing children is neither in the
man’s control nor in the wife’s control.
It is Allah Subhanah Alone Who has the Power to bestow children on
whomever He Wills and Pleases.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 42 Surah Shuraa verses 49-50:
49 To Allah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth. He creates what He wills (and plans). He bestows (children) male or female
according to His Will (and Plan).
50 Or He bestows both males and females, and He leaves barren whom He
will: for He is Full of Knowledge and Power.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 16 Surah Nahl verse 72: And Allah has made for you mates (and companions) of your own
nature. And made for you out of them sons and daughters and grandchildren and
provided for you sustenance of the best: will they then believe in vain things
and be ungrateful for Allah's favors?
If Allah
Subhanah has decreed no children for one amongst His slaves; no combination of
men and means can change the Decree of Allah Subhanah! Thus, it would not be considered
righteousness on the man’s part to divorce his wife simply because Allah Subhanah
has not Decreed children from her; but both should remain constant in their
supplication to their Merciful Lord, and beg Him to bless them with righteous
off-spring from His Limitless and Unending Bounty.
Q-2:
what does a women (wife) do to please his husband (like wat should be neccessary)?
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34: Men are
the managers of the affairs of women because Allah has made the one superior to
the other, and because men spend of
their wealth on women. Virtuous women
are , therefore, obedient
(to their husbands); and they guard in his absence what Allah
would have them guard (their honor,
their property, etc.)
There are
limitless and innumerable things a believing and God-fearing wife can do to
please her husband, but if one tries to break it down into major categories
from the guidance of the Glorious Quran and Sunnah, it would be two things:
That a
wife is devoutly obedient to her husband in all matter, unless of course they
are against the principles of Shariah.
That she
guard in her husband’s absence what Allah commands her to guard; ie. their
honor, their property, their children, their relationship with kith and kin,
her chastity, etc.
Allah
Subhanah has laid upon the believing men many responsibilities like earning a
livelihood for himself and his family, and striving in the Cause of Allah
(Jihaad) with his wealth and his self, leadership and governance, propagation
of the deen, etc. as a trial for his entry into
Worship
Allah Subhanah Alone and associate none with Him
Preserve
her chastity and obey her husband.
For
anything that
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254 Narrated
by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a woman observes the
five times of prayer, fasts during
Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 286 Narrated
by Umm Salamah
The Prophet (saws) said:
“If a woman dies while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me. Allah
Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan
Wister