I have seen a girl belonging to poor family.
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
(May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked
this question:
Dear
Burhan,
I have
seen a girl belonging to poor family, which is also accepted by all of my
family members except father. That the family of girl including girl have also
accepted me.
Now
the question before me is that is it proper to marry the girl inspite of
objection by my father. I repeat that the girl belongs to poor and helpless
family. What is your opinion as per Shariya.
Your
brother in islam
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Answer:
Father refusal for
marriage
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His
help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide,
and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear
witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear
witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His
Messengers.
Allah says in the Holy
Quran Chapter 17 Surah Bani Israel verses 23-24:
Your
Lord has enjoined the following: You should not worship anyone but Him
Alone! Treat your parents with great
kindness; if either or both of them
attain old age, do not even say ‘uff’ to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and
pray, “O our Lord, be merciful to them,
just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.”
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4941 Narrated byAbu Umamah
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws)
what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 3.821 Narrated by Anas
The Prophet (saws) was asked about the ‘Grave
Sins’, and He (saws) replied, "They are:--
(1 ) To join others in worship with Allah,
(2) To be undutiful to one's parents,
(3) To kill a person (which Allah has
forbidden to kill)
(4) And to give a false witness."
Second only to absolute gravest sin and abomination of
‘shirk’ (associating others with Allah Subhanah) in gravity of sins in the
Sight of Allah Subhanah is being undutiful to one’s parents!
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud Darda
When a man came to him and said, "I have
a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he
had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the
gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, as much as it is good
and meritorious in the Sight of Allah to be merciful towards the poor and
helpless of society, the Guidance of Islam Commands and Demands that one should
be dutiful and obedient to the lawful commands of one’s parents……
To seek to marry someone is but a Sunnah; but to be
dutiful and obedient to the lawful commands of one’s parents is an absolutely
obligatory duty unto the believers who sincerely fear Allah and the Last Day.
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, if after your very best
efforts, your father for any reason whatsoever still does not approve and give
his consent to your choice in marriage, it would be only piety and
righteousness on your part to seek to marry someone else whom both you and your
parents approve of.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only
due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me
alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is
the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and
well wisher in Islam,
Burhan
Wister