Working with non mehram males
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's
Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
i know its a sin to be alone with
males. but i work in a place where it is unavoiadble to be alone with men at
late hours. if i keep my faith strong is it still a sin?
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Answer:
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verses 30-31: Say
to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty:
that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with
all that they do.
And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and
guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments
except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils
over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their
brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or
the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical
needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they
should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden
ornaments. And O you who have believed!
Turn you all together towards Allah that you may attain Bliss.
Allah
commands the believing men and the believing women to lower their gaze and
guard their modesty in the above aayahs,
and commands the women to draw their veils over themselves when in the
company of non-mehram males.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 53: If
you (the noble companions of the Prophet) have to ask the wives of the Prophet
for something, ask for it from behind a
curtain. This is a better way for the
purity of your, as well as their hearts.
The above
command is for some of the most noble and best people who ever lived on this
planet earth; the companions of the
Prophet, and the chaste and noble wives
of the Prophet of Allah (saws). Allah
commands the companions of the Prophet that if they have to ask for something
from the wives of the Prophet, they
should do so from behind a veil or a curtain,
because this way is better and purer for both, the companions and the wives of the Prophet
(saws). No people could have
controlled their emotions and feared Allah more than the noble companions and
the chaste wives of the Prophet; but
even to such noble souls, Allah has
commanded that it is purer and better that if they need to talk to the wives of
the Prophet, they should do so from
behind a veil.
Islam does not prohibit the essential talking
between non-mehrams, provided the laws of the segregation of sexes are
honored. If one needs to talk to a
non-mehram, one should lower ones gaze and talk to them in a business-like and
straight forward manner. What Islam
strictly prohibits is the free mixing of the sexes and vain and casual talk
amongst non-mehrams.
If one,
in the order of genuine need, talks to a non-mehram member of the opposite sex
in a straight forward and business-like manner; there is no harm and no sin;
provided all the restrictions related to non-mehrams like donning the veil,
lowering the gaze, and holding only essential talk, etc. are honored.
But if
one, in the guise of academics, seeks to ‘befriend’ a non-mehram member of the
opposite sex; or seeks to meet in private, or seeks casual or vain talk; it
will give the Shaytaan the chance to urge one or both of them to exceed the
limits. Seeking to form such an illicit
relationship would indeed be a grave sin in the sight of Allah Subhanah; as
this path could lead to the abomination and one of the gravest of sins in the
sight of Allah Subhanah: ie. ‘zina’ (fornication or adultery).
Your Question: if i keep my faith strong is it
still a sin?
Al-Tirmidhi
Hadith 3118 Narrated by Umar ibn
al-Khattab
The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a
(non-mehram) woman the Shaytaan makes a third."
Beloved
sister in Islam, it may be that you keep your faith strong; but there is always
a chance that the men may not be able to be as pure of heart; and at the
opportune moment, the Shaytaan may lead them (or you) to a path of
transgression. It would be best and
purer for you (and them) if you could avoid being alone in the company of
non-mehram men, and if that is not possible search for a new job which does not
put you in this path of possible temptation.
If you do this for the sake of your faith, Allah Will give you a
generous reward from Himself and will enrich you from His Endless Bounties in
this life and the Hereafter, Insha Allah.
If one
trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of
Allah and His Messenger (saws), he can
be assured of never ever being misled;
but if one believes, obeys and
follows any other guidance, other than
that of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
he can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me. Allah
Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan