Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

My husband lives in U.A.E and he returns home after avery 18 months. What should i do if i have sexual desires during his very long absences? One of my friends also experienced it and she is now releiving herself through relationship with another woman. They do not open each others satr and just enjoy each other while wearing clothes. Can i do it too ?

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Answer:

Relationship of woman with a woman

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

It is absolutely illegal in Shariah and a huge and heinous sin in the sight of Allah Subhanah for a woman to satisfy her natural sexual desires with anyone other than her husband. The woman should fear Allah and the Last Day, and should abstain from such behavior.

Your Question: My husband lives in U.A.E and he returns home after avery 18 months. What should i do if i have sexual desires during his very long absences?

In the situation described, the believing woman who sincerely fears Allah Subhanah and the Last Day has three options:

With extreme wisdom and patience, talk to the husband and honestly tell him she cannot bear to live without him for so long; and request him to either come back to her, or call her to live with her husband in the foreign land.

If the husband for any genuine reason cannot come back, or is not able to call her to live with him; she may choose the option of acceptance and patience and expect her reward from her Merciful Lord.

But if she fears that because of the long separations from her husband, she might not be able to control herself and live within the boundaries laid down by Allah and His Messenger (saws); she is well within her rights to seek a divorce, and there will be no sin upon her.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan