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thank you very much for your reply for my previous question in the light of quraan and shariah.

now i have another one question.

I have some grammetical error in my question but i hope you will understand my question.

Q. I am a married man. see the problem is i am leaving in joint family in bombay. if we wanted to have sex in day time (such after lunch we are taking rest), we cannot, because we cannot get bath (gusl). if we are going to get bath (gusl) might our mother, father, sister, brother will think that we had sex now. so we are filling that this is not good and we are controlling our self. is there any other solution to avoid bath (gusl). then what i am doing that i am keeping my panis on the vagina just having some relax we both are filling well. as i heard that unless the front portion totally inserted in vagina then the bath (gusl) will necessary for us, otherwise no, but i should control for white discharge. is it true.

i hope you will get my question if you does not understand please inform me.

thanks

best regards

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Answer:

When is Gusl obligatory?

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

The Shariah Law states that when the private organ of the man so much as touch the private organ of the woman, the ‘ghusl’ or full bath would become obligatory on both the man and the woman, regardless of whether any discharge has taken place or not.

There is absolutely no restriction in Islam for the husband and wife to enjoy conjugal relationship with each other, except in the state of ‘ehram’, or while fasting, or while the woman is in her menses.

It would not be right for the wife to refuse conjugal relations with her husband, or for the husband to refuse conjugal relations with his wife, for fear that the extended family would suspect that the husband and wife have had intercourse, which is their right after marriage! If one is in a situation where one lives in a joint family, and does not feel comfortable taking a full bath at an odd time in the shared toilet of the family; the simplest way to get around the issue honorably is to make it a daily routine habit to take a full bath everytime one wakes up from his afternoon rest.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan