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dearest Burhan,

ur enlightenment with precise answers is coming as a boon to a lost world of religion. i love every part of ur subject. bless you for that.....now my question pertains to husband-wife relationship which i have read quite a few letters pertaining to this subject....now my question is...since masterbation, adultery and all other means of sex outside marriage are considered over desires which is a bidaa, than what should a man do if he does not get even normal sex from his wife due to reasons that she may be playing the role of a housekeeper and a mother more than the role of a wife and in turn tiring herself to the limit that she cannot spend a few intimate moments with her husband ??? or she may just have below normal appetite for sex ??? awaiting ur

reply.....

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Answer:

Below normal appetite for sex

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

May Allah Subhanah reward you with the best of this world and the Hereafter for your kind comments of encouragement for our humble efforts in the propagation of the Truth. We humbly hope, beg, and pray the Merciful Lord accepts our humble and weak efforts, forgives us our shortcomings, and saves you, us, and all the believers from the torment of the Hell Fire. Ameen.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.460 Narrated by Abu Huraira

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "If a husband calls his wife to his bed (i.e. to have sexual relation) and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the angels will curse her till morning."

No matter how busy the wife is, the Messenger of Allah (saws) advised that when she is called to bed by her husband, she must leave everything and enjoy what Allah Subhanah has made permissible for the believers in marriage.

If a wife is not satisfying the natural needs of her husband, because of below normal appetite or otherwise, it would be best for the husband to talk to her politely and with wisdom, and explain his needs to her.

If the husband feels that he cannot have patience, and fears that he may transgress the boundaries of Allah Subhanah if the situation does not improve; he always has the option of marrying a second, or a third, or a fourth time.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan