Is it haaram for a mehram to prevent their child from marrying for their own desire?
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Assalamu Alaikum. And many thanks for reading and answering my question. I am asking this question on behalf of my sister, although I would like to know the answer myself. My sister and this guy want to marry eachother. My family accepts this and so does some of his family. Except his mother. She doesn't want her son to marry my sister because some people on her side of the family do not like my family. Is this excusable? Or is his mother blocking the path of Allah? Both my sister and the guy she loves are very upset and disagree with this. But he doesn't want to go against his mothers wishes as he knows it is haraam. The answer to this question(s) will be ighly appreciated and I will be sure to ask Allah to reward the answerer. Thank you again!
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Answer:
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Sister obedience to ones parents is paramount. Though the man does not need his parents approval to get married, he should strive to keep them happy and agreeable. A marriage in Islam is never between two individuals but it is between two families. If everyone is happy then the bride can expect a warm welcome in her new family. She will need the cooperation of all concerned to make her life fruitful.
The best course of action should be to convince the mother and make her see the fact that the two love each other. Whatever is her bone of objection should be addressed so that she can willingly make an effort to make the bride's entry into her new home very welcome.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
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